i'm probably a little late to the whole relationship thing. i'm 28 and for most of my life casual connections felt enough. i never really wanted a serious relationship but as i got older i decided to give it a real chance because i'd never truly experienced it before.
it's been 14 days since the breakup and my emotions are all over the place. one minute i'm okay the next i'm sad then i'm feeling good and suddenly i'm right back at square one. we weren't even together that long but i think what hurts is that this was the first time i genuinely tried.
the breakup itself wasn't messy. the last time we saw each other i turned down sex multiple times because i knew it would only make things harder. i already knew the relationship wasn't right for me and getting pulled back in wouldn't have changed the outcome.
what confuses me is why i'm still so sad. if i wasn't that interested why does it hurt this much? maybe that's a question for therapy. maybe i'm grieving the effort the possibility or the version of myself that finally decided to open up and try.
Last updated on:2026-06-11T08:26:16+05:30
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i wasn't just grieving the person, i was grieving the future i'd started imagining.
I feel this 10000%
i had my first relationship and when it ended i kept telling myself "it wasn't even that serious." but what wrecked me was how much hope i'd attached to finally letting someone in.
Because you did like this person, all I see is you realizing the person you like/d is your opposite and it was getting hard for you guys yo communicate
And thats exactly what happened to me and my ex so I totally get that and we're in this together 🙏 I get what you mean w the emotions because I feel the same, sometimes I'm happy and sometimes I'm feeling awful (and btw you're NEVER too late to feel)
Always. Was never true tough.