I listen to music, I try to write, I try to stop stalking . I've failed at all of this. I feel angry and resentful towards myself, and I have a desire for revenge. These are very mixed feelings. I hate this. Perhaps I'm sad because he doesn't care about me and pretends to live a perfect life. What do you think?
Last updated on:2026-07-17T18:21:53+05:30
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No contact is the only way to go. If you're still seeing him, you can't move on. You're only torturing yourself.
the stalking always made my anger feel bigger
i got stuck in that angry phase for months, and the worst part was realizing i was spending more energy on someone who had already checked out. that resentment turned on me way more than it ever touched them
I know the feeling of them living “the perfect life”. It almost gives a feeling of “How can they just go on when I feel like this”. Just try to remember, what someone looks like to the outside world isn’t usually how they really feel. You can’t be angry at yourself for having feelings. And if the “small” things don’t work, try some new things. I started going places and visiting new things with my roommate, and that really helps.
Dont beat yourself up. You’re only human. Its not your fault on why you feel the way you do. Just know I care about you and many other people care about you too. Now its time to move on and focus on the people that actually really value you and care about you in your life. Once you start letting go then you’ll learn how to forgive yourself. What matters is your peace of mind and healing to better yourself. If you keep focusing on him all its gonna do is hold you back from reaching toward the improvement for your life. You got this and I believe. You can let it go and I am rooting for you 💪🏽❤️🩹🫂
do you think you're more angry that he seems happy without you, or that you still care so much while he acts like none of it mattered?
Sometimes I end up in a darker place when I listen to breakup/sad music and scroll through breakup reels on social media. It can be cathartic for me- but most of the time it makes it a lot harder.
I get it. Tbe self loathibg for not being atrojger teen yijr own mind ro bot contact or folloow or reavh out to hkm but the fact is your nervous systrm is in sjock. looking for qhat he did to you. yoir dopinjbe high. your going thru witdrawms drok a very powrrfuk drig called ocytoxin. dont blame yoirsekf for wanting a fux. youll ve ok. sleeo thru it. first 2 weeks shcj the most and acceptimg its over. is thd onky way to move on. thst taked tezrs, talking with people anc grieving over the death if your hopes and dreams yoy had with.him. tzke sime time to wirk on you. your going to be ok.