hey im 17(male) just gotten outen of a 3 month relationship with my ex gf I genuinely thought she was the one I was going to marry her i dont believe I can move on from this ive had the courage to finally delete our pictures but its gonna be hard with all the memories ive decided to try and move on its my first day of non contact today any support will be appreciated thanks for litsening
Last updated on:2026-07-21T20:18:30+05:30
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I am 56 yrs old and I recall the pain and agony of losing the first love of my life. He didnt even have the nerve to tell me. He just left one night and never came back. Never tried to explain. Didnt give a shit if I was okay. 40 yrs later, I saw him one day. I was surprised I didnt even csre. Didnt try and say hello or talk to him. He looked and then looked harder at me. I know he was trying to place my face and then my bus came. I could have taken the next one but why give him a chance to speak to me 30 yrs later. I didnt matter to him way back when and he no longer meant anything to me.
Firsf love and first loss you will carry for a long time but there will be anothet door open before you know it.
i wish someone had told me how unbareable it is but nothing can prepare you for that first loss.
ive had previous relationships before but this 1 stood out for me im in day 3 of non contact and I cant beleive how well im doing im trying not to reopen wounds she can stay blocked im thinking im gonna wait for non contact until maybe 2027 and see if it moved on once I blocke people I barely ever go back its her loss I was willing to do anything and everything for her but I suppose she still left.
hey man im 16 and a boy as well and I know how you feel. tomorrow is day 201 of no contact for me (we broke up december 28 and went no-contact at new year) and I loved that girl since I was 13 and personally I still cant see a future that she isnt in, but im still here having hope and I hope you muster the strength to move on and if you ever need to talk im here and if you have any questions about what it feels like i can answer from my own experiences too so dont hesitate to message
thanks so so much im on day 3 which is genuinely huge for me i deleted everything I dint think i wojld take her back after the pain shes left me and she know how much I was willing to fight best believe i wanted this girl more than anything but she left i suppose im trying my best just to keep living everyday life
I had an ex i was with for 3 years and I thought I was also going to marry her. after I let myself ponder for awhile and work on myself and my life I finally realized she wasn't good to me or good for me.
if your struggling and ever need someone to chat with just leave a post or a message in the chat box someone will help. =) welcome to your first steps at healing.
He broke up w me but told me he still does love me but we can't be together. We tried being friends but it was getting worse so decided to go no contact a week ago. I miss him so much. Does it get any better?
@Sugar bruh kinda same in the same situation im not sure if she still loves me but she wants me to move i suppose this "withdrawal phase" i need to keep strong to its been 2 days and its killing me.
@rhysrawlings119 im little over a month. the first 2 weeks were the hardest honestly.
@ItsNotEasy how you feeling now?
@rhysrawlings119 great. im also talking to someone new but going slow. it just kind of happened I had told my self id not talk to anyone.
first day of no contact is honestly the hardest part
yeah thanks ive eaten and stuff managed to litsen to some music but its been a bit of a day of highs and lows but I managed to delete everything
my first breakup too, i was sure i'd never love anyone else. i got through it one day at a time, just like you're trying to do now.
ive been in a lot of relationship but this 1 was the hardest I feel for someone I suppose I just need to be strong and keep looking after myself.
stay busy the first couple of days are soo hard 😫 you will want to drive by or stalk their social media but dont do it because you will be starting over it takes 30 consistent days to kick a habit stay busy when its too much and your about to contact come on here talk about it or dedicate a journal with all the things you want to say I had to stay away from romance movies,music,shows and books.i had to stay off of social media . Just so I didnt think about him but with each passing day you will start noticing you dont think about them anymore and whatever you do, do not answer when she calls or texts I did after almost 3 months right when I was feeling like myself again I let him back in and it just destroyed me had to start the whole grieving process all over again you can cry you talk about it until your blue in the face I would voice my thoughts out loud or recorded myself crashing out and bawling and tried to pin point my emotions and why I felt that way . Hopefully these help you I promise she wasnt the one if she was she would be by your side.
yeah yeah i thought she was gonna be the girl id marry but unfortunately it wasnt to happen or meant to be. ive just about managed to delete everything to do with her. and im looking to heal imma need counseling maybe to help me heal because this is the hardest breakup ive ever had I know i just know one day ill wake up with no tears in my eyes and her names not gonna hurt. the breakup was due to my life and my mum broke us up.we was perfect for each other but we just argued a lot and I think that was 1 of the factors that drove us to ultimately say goodbye but ive only cried 2 times today which is really good for me it shows im making progress im just trying to take everyday as it comes
what hurts the most right now, losing her or losing the future you thought you were going to have together?
yeah having to say goodbye fun fact i was originally supposed to meet her today for a last goodbye but i chose to just cut it of yesterday as it was hurting too much but but yeah Its almost been a whole day of 0 contact.
hello welcome to the group. its admirable the steps you are taking to help heal your heartbreak. unfortunately you will probably have many heartbreaks over your long life, you will learn many things each time and be ome the man ready to find The One
omg thank you so so much I appreciate the support im gonna try and look after myself but I do beleive I can move on eventually I just feel a bit crappy now