How to cope with birthday loneliness after a breakup

it’s my birthday in a couple of days.

and I don’t have anyone to share it with also a big birthday.

I really don’t have anyone I’m not saying it to get pity.

how do you guys deal with the loneliness we were so utterly involved in each other lives their friends were my friends family etc etc

I’ve literally lost everything.

Last updated on:2026-07-20T04:00:10+05:30

Comments (22)

Voleuse01
Voleuse01 1 wk ago

i'm really sorry you're walking into such a big birthday feeling this alone

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

thank you. it just doesn’t seem fair.

Bluebeing
Bluebeing 1 wk ago

the people you lost drift away on their own, or did you pull back because being around them felt too painful?

VibeDream104

This year I spent my birthday crying in bed. I just had to do what my body needed me to do. Next year I know my birthday won’t be like that, and neither will yours! You can even celebrate your milestone birthday a year from now ❤️

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

that’s a very good point. maybe it’s the first of everything that I need to get used to.

VibeDream104

@poundcaker I think so, it’s hard for me too but day by day we face those firsts one at a time and we’ll get stronger as we go

poundcaker
poundcaker 7 days ago

@VibeDream104 yes thanks for that perspective. I mean I cannot change that we won’t be doing all those things together but I can start seeing it as firsts again.

dramaQueen
dramaQueen 1 wk ago

i had one birthday right after my breakup where i just sat in my apartment staring at my phone, hoping someone would remember. losing your person AND the life around them feels brutal

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

yep yep exactly.

ItsNotEasy
ItsNotEasy 1 wk ago

happy birthday! please treat yourself!

Babybird
Babybird 1 wk ago

happy birthday! I feel you, I’m all alone too. he was all I had, my only friend too. I think we are meant to be alone right now.

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

I guess you are right have to be alone.

FrostJet725
FrostJet725 1 wk ago

book yourself in for a pamper day. get your nails done or a massage, organize lunch with someone. see a movie. do a fun class. I always spend my birthday alone doing these types of things.

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

I’ll just go to the beach and read and swim.

BelBel
BelBel 1 wk ago

happy birthday in advance, you’ve got this!!

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

thank you

Prudence
Prudence 1 wk ago

happy birthday in advance girlll

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

thank you.

Lumari
Lumari 1 wk ago

try doing something you never did! it helps to change your mood and be a little bit happier

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

thank you

RadFlare869
RadFlare869 1 wk ago

hiiii
happy birthday

you got this girl
you can do it
remember you are loved

poundcaker
poundcaker 1 wk ago

thank you. I don’t believe I do but thank you for saying it anyways.