I used to talk to him from day 1 of college we were in the same group and everything everything, we did group work and everything together
then I started a physical relationship with him ( without commitment I know it was a mistake ) after that we got into things he was more into the physical I used to say don't do it here or there
after that he changed houses he lost his personal space and his dad is taunts him and his dad is going to retire this year he is the eldest son in the house
then our internship came and in that we grew apart because of different institutions, there were fights and then he was like we will be friends and because of this more fights were happening between us I Cleary said to him that you used me and everything
after that even I tried to be friends with he never used to text or talk to me and that made more fights between us
but the thing was he never blocked me and always helped me when needed even when I was not talking to him during my exams he asked my friend if I took my admit card or told my friend to share important questions with me whenever I tried to end things he never gave clarity he used to say I don't want anything I'm ending everything and all but he never did
today is the 6th day of my no contact I don't understand I overthink and I lose focus and everything
last time we fought I told him why you ignore me and I said let's end all this again he didn't and I told him I wanted to stay but he said he can't text for 10 hours and not to call him.
I know I'm not going back..just I don't understand what will happen I have no idea..
Last updated on:2026-07-21T05:11:26+05:30
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i know it’s hard sitting with all the unanswered questions, but i had to stop looking for closure from someone who kept leaving me confused. my no contact days were the hardest at first too.
it was his first time into things..it was my first time too..I think he couldn't understand the situation well..and all emotional burden came to Me instead..idk..I feel sad today..
when he says he doesn’t want anything but still helps you and stays around, what do you feel he’s holding onto? is it care, guilt, or something else?
he says he felt guilt for whatever physical thing happend between us...maybe it's guilt because he said he would feel bad if I didn't score well in exams..he would think it's his fault
he is the kind of guy who is quiet types he is from boys school and everything
I can also say one thing that he is confused he is confused with his feelings like he cannot decide even if I tried to be friends he couldn't do it but he never ends things he either
i stayed attached to someone who would show up when i needed help but disappear when i needed clarity, and that confusion hurt more than the breakup itself
does an avoidant comes back tho?
@cookie i dont think its as simple as that. whether something can be resolved is dependent on the person and where they are at.