hey since ive decided to start a mini series where im upload how I feel day by day im currently on day 4 of no contact.
the thoughts get louder in my head even though I can be stable.
Ive been living my life and reclaiming my life back.
Ive finally had a haircut and get some fresh air today, ive been litsening to a few music songs aswell.
ive decided to test myself and try and go to the place where me and my ex used to go while we was together I didnt really feel much I do kinda wanna break non contact but I cant let my emotions win after a decent 4 days without messaging her and even if I did it would hurt knowing she doesnt want a relationship with me anymore.
Last updated on:2026-07-21T22:29:12+05:30
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wanting to break no contact so many times because i thought one message would calm everything down. for me, sitting with that urge instead of acting on it was the thing that slowly gave me my power back.
yeah thats what i do I sit through the urges and dont act on them.
yes! great advice. Every day that passes where I’ve resisted the urges to reach out makes me realise I am capable of eventually healing.
when you went back to that place you both used to go, did it feel more like missing her or more like missing the version of yourself you were when you were with her
I felt not a lot of feelings so its kinda weird sorry if replies are short ive jusy woke up.
day 4 was such a weird place for me too, my life looked normal on the outside but my brain was still screaming for my ex. going back to places we shared and feeling less pain was a small win i didn’t expect
im so proud of you for the progress you have made some days will be better than other but I love how you got out and enjoyed the day instead of being at home with your thoughts I love going back and reading my posts because it shows me how much progress I have made I come on here everytime I feel the need to reach out and either help others or write a post about what I am feeling in the moment its soo helpful
I needed to get out because it felt like being at home all day wasnt really helping or taking my mind off the situation but its like I know she isnt coming back i wish her the best and same i do look through my posts seeing how far ive came in this journey. sometimes its the night that makes it worse but I need to stand strong , some days are easier than others thats true i need to stop the idea that shes coming back its just making it harder than easier for me
@rhysrawlings119 its all part of the process we unfortunately have to go through but I hope your good days outweigh your bad and you get out more to help you along the way
@cheekz I am ready to move on i am kinda talking to her best friend who she doesnt like but I blocked my ex so yeah I might date her friend instead
@rhysrawlings119 im glad to hear you are ready to move on just take it slow ok exchanging one person for the next may bot be the best idea make sure to keep focusing on your healing journey 😊
@cheekz yeah i know but I think im ready ill take things slowly i didnt expect me to get this far im always for you aswell if you need anyone to talk to
I was doing the same thing. it was helpful.
how you finding non contact?
@rhysrawlings119 i broke it yesterday after 12 days of thinking i would give him space and he would work it out. That was not what happened. so i am now at day 1 heartbroken.
contact either gets your hopes up, or sets you back with rejection. stay strong.
you see that what makes it so weird I can easily unblock her but its not like she wants to get back together so im not sure what to do to be honest.