Today started out rough I woke up to a broken fridge and on top of that I was weighed down from grief and exhaustion from crying all night. I had almost convinced myself it was going to be a bad day then just like a switch flipped they switched out my fridge I had a good lunch i went to work late but I feel like the fridge thing happening was a saving grace it gave me time to get into the mood of going to work then I noticed I started singing again music is everything to me but for awhile I had to be careful with what songs I played because I would cry and I had stopped singing but today that spark came back also I got a text from a guy I was talking to like a month ago but I decided not to pursue anything because I didnt feel that he liked me very much he reached back out and just poured out all his feelings for me and asked for another chance and I know I shouldn't put my self worth on what others say to me but it really made me feel special here I was sad about someone who doesnt want me ,hasnt bothered to reach out (even if he did i wouldn't know hes still blocked) when I have someone who never stopped thinking about me it just reminded me how much of a bad ass person i am that people truly enjoy my company and what I have to offer and appreciate me . I did tell him that I am focusing on my healing journey and my feelings about my ex that I struggle with and I thought he wouldve changed his mind but he was so supportive saying he just wanted to be here for me in whatever way I would allow him to be 😱🤯
Last updated on:2026-07-21T20:14:43+05:30
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i really felt the part about someone who doesn't want you while someone else is choosing you.
it really really sux coming to the realization that you weren't as important as we thought we were. it makes me mad that my partner moved on soo fast and im here suffering with his absence.
when he reached out and stayed supportive even after you told him where your heart is, how did that make YOU feel? did it bring you some peace, or did it make you realize how little you were getting from your ex
both I guess my self worth was waaay low before that message I was questioning everything about myself after the break up ,the kind of person I was ,my looks the way I talked and walked I couldnt come to grips on why I wasnt chosen 💔 then when I told this guy about me not being emotionally available right now I was expecting a negative outcome but I was ok with it because I was setting my boundaries and being honest with him and if he didnt accept them well I was ok with it because this was all I was comfortable with providing it helped to give me hope
i've had days where i woke up convinced everything would hurt forever, then one tiny thing shifted and i caught myself singing too. those little moments felt so small then, but they ended up meaning a lot.
yes I didnt realize how much of myself I lost being in that relationship im slowly having a realization that relationship wasnt right for me I shouldn't loose myself in someone else
oh my gosh I’m so so sorry! the rough days are the worst! especially after a breakup or a big change like that😭
definitely ive had more bad than good days but I cherish the good days and try to hold on to those every day I learn a little more about my grief and the root cause of it and facing it there is a lot I have to forgive myself for its not easy but im getting there
Be patient with yourself beautiful and never rush anything only time can heal the wound. Just stay focused on yourself go out enjoy life make friends but sometimes its better to not get into dateing as we still have those feelings and memories of or Ex's. We tend to hurt others and ourselves more by getting into a new relationship. God bless you and I hope all goes well for you 🙏💙🌹
yea I hear you i definitely dont want to stop my process of healing just to latch on to someone else to numb the pain that is why I told him I was taking a break from dating and he is willing to wait if I allow him it was nice to hear that I didnt have to put my feelings on the back burner just because I cared for someone
That's really nice, I am glad you shared that moment with someone and it made you feel good. I am really lucky. I have really wonderful friends who always have my back even when im making mistakes. im trying to focus on that when I feel sad and alone.
it was refreshing meeting someone so understanding. I'm glad you have a community to lean on how was today ? any better?
@cheekz I feel heartbroken and whenever I think of him, these emotions come rushing up that hurt my heart. I had a great chat this morning with a good friend and then took my Mum out to help her with some stuff. I think the fact I had done 12 days NC already has sort of eased the urges to keep reaching out after yesterday's conversations with him. and the fact that there was none of the normal kindness from him about how much he missed me ect. He did end the conversation by saying our time was special to him. so I guess its better to leave things on a good note and with my head held high. 🤷♀️
@FrostJet725 ugh thats rough im sorry it seems its harder for you to get over hombecause hes so kind do you think part of you is still holding on to hope because hes being kind