so we weren't a couple but a situationship, cuz i am leaving to study in England for one year and he doesn't want distance at all cuz it broke his last relationship. but i fell in love, it wasn't casual. he told me a few times to call him next year when i'll be back from England, to try together.
but i was so in love. A friday, we had an argument and he said "i don't want to make you suffer" and stopped answering for nine hours, wich made me think he ghosted me so i called him 8 times and that what changed everything. He answered saying he didn't liked it. Then he ghosted me the whole weekend, not answering my texts (i wasn't sending much to not overwhelmed him)
Then on Tuesday he sent me this :
(it was in french but i translalted it my best?
I'd rather we stop here. I'm truly sorry, but I think there's too great an emotional gap between us now. Your reaction on Friday made me realize that we're no longer on the same wavelength, and it's something that has already shown itself several times, in different ways. You're deeply attached to me, whereas I don't feel the same. I don't want to make you suffer unnecessarily or let this situation become heavy or toxic for you.
Please know that this wasn't a decision I made lightly. It's been difficult, and I've spent the entire weekend thinking about it. As we already discussed, since our expectations are no longer aligned, I believe it's healthier and more honest for both of us to end things here.
Our situation has never been simple, and I know this ending is painful. I'm sincerely sorry that I couldn't give you what you were hoping for. I truly tried, I promise, but despite my best intentions, a distance grew between us, and our mutual misunderstandings only widened that gap.
You are a wonderful person who truly deserves to be loved for who you are, and I'm sure you'll find that person. From the bottom of my heart, I wish you happiness. You have immense talent, and I'm certain you'll become an incredible writer. (I'm still looking forward to reading your book.)
Thank you for everything, Estelle. Thank you for every moment we shared together—they're memories I'll always cherish. Take good care of yourself.
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is he saying he never cared ? when he told me he appreciated me, talking to me and everything. i cannot believe me calling him 8 times by fear made him not care about me that fast. please tell me what you think.
two weeks later he posted a picture with a girl but idk if it was a couple picture or a friends one (wanted to post it here to ask but seems to irrespectufl)
it's not like him to act like this because he met a new girl so i don't think it's relevant
Last updated on:2026-08-12T20:17:23+05:30
Comments (8)
i don't think he suddenly stopped caring because you called 8 times. i've had that panic where you think you've been ghosted and keep reaching out, then beat yourself up for it afterward. one scared reaction doesn't erase everything that came before it
the panic is so real, the fear and everything being mixed at once :(
i'd read his message as him caring about you but realizing he couldn't give you the same kind of love you had for him. that's brutal, especially when he'd talked about trying again next year. i think the kindest thing you can do for yourself is believe what he said about caring and also believe what he said about not feeling the same.
that's so right omg i am going to do this, believing those two things, and move on
do you think the picture with the girl is hurting because you're worried he replaced you, or because part of you is still hoping he'll come back when you're home?
because part of me is still hoping :( i was hoping hé stopped things because of my soon departure, not because he didn't cared about me
if you love him, you need to let him go. Its the most loving thing you can do. If you find each other again next year then so be it, but in the meantime, you need to learn to Iive without him
thanks you for this, you are so right, i have to be with myself