it’s only four days in since NC with the guy i got attached to. i reread old messages and knew i wasn’t crazy that he was super responsive and warm at the beginning. then later got a bit distant and decided we can’t do things like sleeping otp or calling every day anymore. maybe that’s what caused this attachment in the first place. i miss the little things we used to do. is there something wrong with me for wanting to keep doing that? he has no attachment so it’s not an issue for him. how do they just switch up once they get bored or too comfortable? becuz of that i told him i needed space from all this. becuz i need to detach to the point where i don’t feel like decoding his every message anymore. but it hurts, i want us to be able to talk normally again. how long should it take until i break NC? i want to get things to be normal
Last updated on:2026-09-13T02:08:11+05:30
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honestly, i wouldn’t break NC just because you miss him.
do you think you miss him as things are now, or are you missing the version of him who wanted to sleep on the phone and talk every day?
four days of NC can feel ridiculously long when your brain is still expecting those little calls, messages, and routines. i used to reread everything too, trying to prove to myself that the closeness was real, because suddenly it felt like i’d imagined half of it.
How to detach? It is not easy, it requires your commitment. I did everything, but journaling and emotional checking helped me a lot. I write down what I am grieving for everyday. Besides, I ask myself everyday what am I needing right now? What can I give to myself at the moment? For example, I need to cry and what I can give to myself is letting myself cry and practice deep breathing. I always do this when I miss him the most. I also acknowledge my feeling such as sadness, anger, disappointment, etc. It took me 30 days to finally let him go ^^