Why do breakups hurt so much?
[writing helps me cope] Day 72. I barely count the days anymore, but the pain has become physical recently. I’ve had headaches for days from crying. Some days I miss him terribly, while other days
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Why do i keep attracting emotionally unavailable people?
I love listening to podcast these days. I listen to Dr Tom Philps often because I really wanna improve myself to be a better person. One of his podcasts is about How to heal anxious attachment and sto
Why do i keep crying after two months?
It’s been almost two months, and somehow, these past three days, the sadness found its way back to me. I saw him in my dream, and for a moment, it felt like my heart had forgotten all the healing i
Why loving deeply isn't a weakness
Have you ever regretted giving so much love to someone? I did. In my early twenties, after having my heart broken, I decided that I would never love my next partner that deeply again. I thought givi
Why did they choose her instead of me?
Often, when our ex chooses someone else or cheats on us, we immediately start comparing ourselves to the other person. I experienced that too. When he chose her, I wondered: Is she prettier than me?
Why moving on isn’t always easy: a personal story
Always choose to be good. When I was 23, I dated someone who was 27. We eventually broke up, and only a month later, he started dating someone new. At the time, I felt completely disposable. I remem
Why no contact is harder than it seems
Stopping yourself from talking to someone who once meant the world to you is incredibly difficult. It’s not my first heartbreak, and I sincerely hope it will be my last. When a relationship ends,
Why am i always wanting to text my ex?
Why i embraced no contact after my breakup
This has been the calmest breakup I have ever experienced, and I think one of the biggest reasons is that I committed 100% to no contact. Based on what I learned from my previous relationship, no con
Why day 42 made me realize i hate you
I think I started to hate you today. Not because you left, not because our forever ended before it ever had the chance to begin, but because of the person you chose to become when the truth threatene
Realizing my ex was a narcissist hurt more than i expected
After leaving the relationship and going through counseling, I began to realize that my ex may have had covert narcissistic tendencies. I had no idea what he did was emotional abuse. That realization
Staying strong: how to keep no contact after a breakup
One of the hardest parts of a breakup is maintaining no contact. From my experience, whenever I broke no contact, I often ended up making things worse with my ex. But when I stayed in no contact, I p
Why i tried to fix things after the breakup
After the breakup, I replayed so many memories. Especially, the moments when I made mistakes and was left with regret. Relationships have a way of bringing our deepest wounds to the surface: fear, an
Why does it still hurt 33 days later?
It has been 33 days, and I still wonder— when does it get easier? I knew you cheated, even if you never admitted it. I was the one who finally walked away, yet somehow, you left me carrying all the
Why is letting go so hard?
Letting go is hard because, for an anxious attachment style, separation can feel like more than losing a person, it can feel like losing safety. You may know, logically, that the relationship is over
Why i chose no contact after my breakup
I’ve been doing no contact for 30 days. The first week was brutal. My mind was foggy, I cried every day, and I slept a lot just to escape the uncomfortable feelings. But I was committed to sitting
Why can't i move on from my breakup?
Often, we keep replaying the same scenarios in our minds: *What if I had been more patient?* *What if I hadn’t been so angry?* *What if I had handled things differently?* *What if I had been in a b
Why closure is harder to find than love
Maybe the hardest part isn't losing the person. It's losing the answers. You replay the conversations, question every detail, and wonder: What did I do wrong? Was I not enough? Did they ever re
Did i cause the breakup? understanding your role
Sometimes the hardest part of losing someone isn’t losing them. It’s believing that you were the reason they left. You replay every conversation, every argument, every mistake. You wonder if you
Why you shouldn't feel replaced after a breakup
Replacing you may have been the easiest thing for them to do, but healing is not as easy as replacing someone. Perhaps they thought a new person would make the past disappear, that a different love c
Can we fix this? my struggle with jealousy in a good relationship
My relationship wasn’t bad. Tbh, I always feel happy with him. He was kind and respectful person. 2 months ago, he went to another country for business trip purposes. It started to change after I wa