It’s been 2 days since I haven’t spoken to my ex and I’m finding it really hard not to reach out he said he still loves me and wants to talk to me but he hasn’t replied to me for 2 days so I left him alone. Does this mean he doesn’t care anymore? I feel like a no contact day for him is just a normal day. He also said that he needs 2 weeks to think about things before we stopped speaking but this is starting to feel like he is just dragging it on to maybe soften the breakup im not sure but holding onto some hope is so hard and I am trying to think of it as if it’s done but I didn’t expect him to become so cold any advice?
Last updated on:2026-10-15T20:46:12+05:30
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when an ex pulled the cold distance thing was taking my control back and deciding that his silence was my answer. stop waiting on his two week timer, archive the chat, and treat this like it IS over so you aren't spending every minute staring at your phone waiting for a breadcrumb.
did he give you any specific reason why he needed two whole weeks, or did he just drop that on you out of nowhere
He just said he needed space to think about things but we are going to the same place for halloween and he said before that we should meet up the next day and talk about things but now i think its not a good idea for me. Alot of the relationship i felt like i was always putting him before myself and he was putting himself before me so i want to do what whats best for me.However i am nervous to bump into him and i dont know what to do. For context i just graduated uni and he still has another year left since he changed his course so the thought of him going out lots while i am af home has also been really tough.
two days of silence when you are waiting on someone feels like a entire month. i went through the exact same thing with my ex when he asked for a "break" to think, and watching him live his normal life while i couldn't even breathe made me feel INSANE. he is keeping you on a hook so he doesn't have to face the hard part, and you don't deserve to be left in purgatory like that.
i think that for me at least, we just needed the space to recover and find ourselves, for our brains to process the shift. If you continue talking right after a relationship (casual conversation) then youll miss them more, youll grasp onto the idea that nothing really changed and you wont get to yk take a chill pill and process. so perhaps you should take it as him trying to make some sort of distance to process it all. its different when youve actually broken up with someone even if youve thought about it beforehand. it takes a bit i wouldnt take it as him not caring anymore, just focus on yourself !
you're crying about two days? try 146.
same thing for me. my ex broke up with me whilst still being deeply in love with me. there were about three times i was really cruel to her while under the influence and i don’t remember. so it’s hard to think she can’t forgive me for something i don’t even remember. but we’re no contact now and it’s hell. i’ve been trying to surround myself with friends and talk about it as much as i can so i can cry and get all my feelings out. i’m dedicating this week and next to just sit with the feelings. that’s all i got so far. i’ll update you when i figure out the next step. but my advice is to leave him be. you’ll only push him away more if you keep reaching out. if you want him to come back you have to leave him alone.
Thanks for the advice! I think it’s a good thing that ur trying to heal in a healthy way by letting you feel what you have to I am trying to do that too but things can only get better from here.It is really hard to not have any contact but also if she broke up with you then she doesn’t deserve to know what’s happening in your life atm that’s what I keep trying to tell myself.
No vuelvas !
Rogarle, suplicarle, ponerte de rodillas no hará que vuelva, no puedes convencer a nadie de que se quede, y menos de esa forma, si algo se aprende es que uno solo puede dar razones por la cuales ser querido o amado.
Dónde te den señales confusas, o ya no te quieran, cojer tus cosas y te vas.
Ten la dignidad y la mente clara para decir ya está. Mi tiempo a su lado acabó, porque cuando ella vuelva,.no tu ni ella serán los mismos.
Básicamente, estás extrañando lo que un día fueron, momentos, salidas, muestras de amor, pero; ella ya no es ella, ella ya no está dispuesta a vivir otra vez eso que te hizo feliz, tiene otras cosas, otras metas, otros proyectos dónde tu ya no estás involucrado, e igual tú en ese punto, en ese momento de la vida, ya no serás tú. Habrás cambiado y espero sinceramente sea para mejorar, para salir del hoyo dónde estás, por querer que si o si fuera ella el amor de tu vida 🤞