Hi everyone, I haven't posted much on here but I just wanted to vent for a second and get any advice you guys recommend. Ok, here we go.
About 3 weeks ago, my ex broke up with me. I have been struggling with this hard since he was my first love and I thought everything was great until the last few days leading into the breakup. If people want me to go into details more, I could? But the more I talk about it the more it hurts.
Anyway, we talked a bit today (I know, I broke no contact). He told me he still cares about me and wants to see me again at some point, he just can't now because it hurts to see me, but I can text him when I want too if I have questions for closure. I'm not sure I'll do that but we'll see. He also told me he was back on the dating apps, which really broke me, because he needed it to move on and not think about me.
I'm not sure what I'm asking, but how do I go about this? Why does this feel so weird? He says he doesn't love me anymore and he feels guilty for that, but says he still cares about me and wants to see me! I'm so confused. I still care about him, maybe love him, and I do feel ok. I'm not getting into another relationship anytime soon, I know I'm not ready.
So, any advice? Has anyone had an ex like this before? I'm just unsure what to do and confused.
Last updated on:2026-10-15T01:11:15+05:30
Comments (15)
4 weeks for me and it still hurts
it will get better, I hope so!
i feel good now
how long has it been for you?
what finally saved my sanity was blocking his number so I couldn't text him for closure he was never actually capable of giving me. you cannot heal while you keep letting him drop breadcrumbs whenever he feels guilty.
I might need someone else to block him for, I'm not sure I can do that
Believe him when he says he doesnt love you anymore. No says that unless they mean it. He is keeping communication lines open because he feels bad for hurting you.
Your mind is going to search for any meaning in everything in hopes for reconciliation. You are going to overthink and over analyse everything. He wants to move on, you should try and take steps to move on too. No contact will remove your confusion. Trust me it works. The more contact you have with him, the more confused you will be
thank you, I'll keep all of this in mind!
did he say he wanted to see you again because he genuinely misses you, or was he just trying to soften the blow of telling you he is already swiping on other girls?
probably the second? but idk, as soon as we broke up he kept talking about seeing me again...it's so weird. he's no longer the man I loved.
stay in no contacting, seems like his love bombing you. if he play that's sort of game than he doesn't deserve you. give your heart to someone else.
I am curious about the more details though
which details would you like to know?
@EmpathyCorgi what happened to the last few days leading to the breakup
hearing that your first love is already on dating apps while dangling the carrot of seeing you later is a special kind of agony. my ex pulled that exact same confusing garbage, saying he cared while downloading tinder to cope, and it felt like my chest was being ripped open all over again.
yup, it hurts so bad...like did our love mean nothing to you?