I always fall for avoidants and I swear I hate it. But then when I fall for an anxious attachment I then turn into the avoidant. I feel like im not fit for love because of that 😠i just want someone who FITS me but im worried that person doesnt exist. I dont think I care whether they're a man or woman I'd prefer a woman but I do have attraction to some men. I think I just claim to not like men because of bad experiences with 2 men I had before. I'm just worried I wont find that specific person and I personally dont want to meet them online UNLESS they live near me like my ex-gf we met online and we live about 45 minutes away. I just think im scared to love someone else the way I did with my ex I don't think about her AS MUCH anymore but I do miss the connection we had it was so sweet and comforting then it ran out.
Last updated on:2026-09-14T18:15:14+05:30
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i keep thinking about what you said about being scared to love someone else the way you loved your ex, do you think you're scared of loving again, or scared that the connection will eventually run out again?
a bit of both tbh
are we the same person? lol this was exactly me. But I said no more. I did a deep dive and figured out where my attachment style started. It usually stems from childhood and how we were treated. But now that I've sorted myself out, I need practice on how to remain securely attached. Which means dating again. ugh.
loving the chase with someone avoidant and then feeling trapped when someone actually wants closeness. i used to think that meant something was wrong with me, when really i just hadn’t found a connection that felt safe and mutual yet.
u not alone lot people fall love avoidant cuz them pretty handsome sweet love bomb perfect then ghost. I have ex gf avoidant dissmive she like that but 3 month she ghost me too many time while post story IG TikTok she lie no internet I'm mad break up . yes miss old them first meet but now them mask fall cold dry idgf