We’ve been in a long-distance relationship since January and I am scheduled to move 900 miles to be with him in November. However we keep having explosive arguments over minor communication issues and misread text tones. I struggle with BPD and try my best to manage my sensitivity but his quick temper leads him to claim we're "incompatible" every time we fight over text.
Tonight a simple misunderstanding over a missed phone call spiraled because he refuses to ever apologize or validate my hurt feelings. Now he says he needs to sleep on it but I'm terrified he's breaking up with me. I've flown out five times uprooted my career and enrolled in a school near him for this move. I truly believe our relationship is great outside of distance-related communication issues and I am completely lost on how to save everything I've invested in us.
Last updated on:2026-10-09T08:06:12+05:30
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i’d be scared too after everything you’ve already changed for this relationship.
u two been together so long he maybe stress ldr he not say break up it's fine but her red flag angry not apology is not goood it's gonna hurt u hope u seee and try work bpd
i moved my whole life around for someone once, and when things started falling apart, the thought of losing all that effort scared me almost as much as losing them.
The fight itself was small. What hurt is what happened after. He did something he meant as kind, it landed as being forgotten, and then neither of you could find the way back. You wanted him to see you were hurt. He probably heard the apology request as being told he'd done something wrong when he thought he'd done something nice.