my ex boyfriend and I went cold turkey no contact about 4 ish days ago. we had been off and on before that but hadn’t been together for a few weeks. after this happened I just threw myself into liking someone else and now I’m obsessed with this new guy from afar. I know it’s bad, I’m just trying to replace the feeling of emptiness but I can’t help it. I want to heal but im worried I never will and will instead just keep finding something else to numb the pain
Last updated on:2026-10-17T01:31:12+05:30
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I jumped straight from my ex onto a new guy's roster like three days later because sitting in that quiet, empty room after going cold turkey was literally suffocating. it feels so good in the moment to get that rush, but man, the crash later when you realize you're just using a new face to hide the same old pain is so heavy.
the cycle was forcing myself to sit through just three days without checking my phone for anyone new or old. deleting the dating apps and taking a total break from chasing that quick distraction gave my brain a chance to finally catch its breath.
do you feel like you actually like this new guy for who he is, or is he just a really good place to put all that leftover energy right now?
I relate to this. people telling me to move on and just “have fun” on dating apps talking to new people but I know me. I know I will get attached to someone else just to fill the void.
it’s so important to love yourself. What are your hobbies or things that you enjoy doing?