don't do that
I was thinking how important it is to have boundaries from the beginning.
How important it is not to forgive a person for every mistake and how much you diminish in a person's eyes when they see that you allow them to treat you however they want.
It seems unreal to me that when a person sees that you would do anything for them, they start taking advantage of you.
And I used to identify when someone was overstepping my bounds, I would warn them, but the mistake was that I kept staying there, I no longer inspired credibility.
And yes, there were feelings there and they were pulling me down, but it's no excuse for the fact that I accepted the disrespect, the humiliation, when I look back I judge myself for this thing and I sincerely hope I don't repeat it again.
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when you notice someone overstepping now, what’s the thing you do differently for yourself? asking as a fellow struggler
I don't go overboard anymore, at the first limit crossed, I leave. I don't let it get to the point where I suffer anymore and plus I don't have any credibility anymore if I forgive more than once. If that man is for you, he will come after you, if he isn't, he won't come anymore.
what you’re saying hits. setting boundaries early is everything. once you let someone repeatedly cross them, respect slips. learning to actually leave when it’s disrespected saved me so much pain
i used to let people walk all over me too, thinking love meant forgiveness. took me YEARS to see boundaries weren’t negotiable
stay strong love, we will get through this
experience is the best teacher, you should learn from it