Feeling abandoned after a promise of forever

did he ever talk about what was making him so tired, or did he just shut down and walk away?

my ex walked away like that i had to stop searching his face and words for a reason, because i kept blaming myself for everything.

my ex looked at me the same way near the end, like he was already halfway gone even while we were still together. hearing someone who promised forever suddenly say they’re just “tired” cuts in a way that’s hard to explain.

it's been about 40 days for me. I'm in therapy, taking medication, and constantly having to keep myself busy. it's a day to day process but YES, it does get better with some time. once you start getting into a routine of your own making on the daily, with tons of distractions, it does give your mind a break from all the self blame. you cannot be solely responsible or accountable for someone else's feelings, or for a relationship to end. the first two weeks are awful, but slowly it gets less loud in your mind

my now ex blamed me for everything, every one of my flaws. he blamed me for his unhappiness and abandoned, betrayed, and lied to me, and we are going on almost a decade married. the hardest part of this journey has been the self blame. please do not let yourself fall down that rabbit hole. I have learned many things since, the signs, the pulling away, the false words and promises. but we got to just keep our heads up, keep moving forward, and know you are not alone in this friend 🧡 we are all on this app because we are all hurting terribly, its okay to lean on each other a bit in this healing process 💙 you got this girl 💪

ivyyycoreee a mth ago

i can't take off this feeling of guilt😭
just someone tell me things do get better

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