so my relationship was long distance. me uk and him USA. we spoke everyday and seen each other regularly for four years. but since mum has been involved he ghosted me for two weeks sent me an email telling me to move on with my life without even breaking up with me. then did the same on may 20th followed by silence. I’ve tried to reach out but he’s ignored me I gave up on Wednesday trying to fix it. now I’m getting dreams of him every night I wake up feeling worse, today I came across old pictures and I looked so happy we looked so happy. how do you go from saying I love you to ghosting and discarding? I wish he’d reach out and have that conversation with me but I don’t expect it I’m just devastated if I’m honest I thought he was the one 😔😔 clearly he didn’t love me to end things like this
Last updated on:2026-06-14T09:48:12+05:30
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i might never get the explanation i wanted, even though i thought i NEEDED it to move on. that was a brutal thing to face, but it stopped me waiting by my phone every day.
i keep coming back to the part where his mum got involved. did something change with her around the time he started pulling away, or did it feel completely out of nowhere to you?
he moved back in with his mum because he lost his job in October, throughout our whole relationship she was doing things like convincing his ex to make contact, telling him I was using him for money when he has none, it started off with every time I was on the phone she’d be like I need this I need that and interrupting a lot, the worst one was when I was helping him with a job application because he asked me to and you heard his mum screeching in the background I can do it I can do let me do it. it just got worse from there
I knew she was controlling to a degree but I thought he would stand his ground but clearly he didn’t want to. it hurt because I spent 4 years off my life with him.
my ex disappeared instead of having one honest conversation too, and the silence hurt more than the breakup itself. four years is a long time to be left with questions
yup it’s horrible, I don’t understand I miss him a lot and I love him so so much, he unblocked my email address last week but I haven’t reached out no point now. I hope he does come back or I move on but how deeply I fell in love with him I’m probably going to be feeling like this for a while I guess 😔
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone friend ❤️
thank you 🥰🥰
I feel you 😔
you will be fine
I know i just wish he didn’t leave 😔