I love him so much, i thought i was gonna marry him. But then one night it hits me hard, it came to my realization that Im not his priority. We are from the same city but force to be in ldr because he studies 1000+km away from me. Every night we would be on the call but only talk to each other for a few minutes cause he is busy studying, and when he didn’t study he chooses to play games and ignore me.. sometimes he listens sometimes he don’t, even if he does he didn’t pay attention to what im saying. Day by day i talk less and be more quiet, I thought to myself what’s the point? he wont listen anyway, and he doesn’t realize i talk lesser than before. Every single time i get carried away telling him exciting stories I realize again oh he wasn’t paying attention.. Last night was it, I ended the call and wait how long until he realized i hang up, i waited 2 hours then there is his text apologizing as usual with no changes. Listen, i have told him so many time his actions hurts me but he still did it. Only 1 call from him that night i refuse to pick up and he gave up and just said that he was tired and wished me goodnight. It was 1 am.. he usually could stay up until 4 am to play games. while me? I have to comfort myself to sleep, it happened countless of time already but it still hurts. The next day, I decided to try again, tell him my feelings i went over board and cussed him out. Instead of understanding my feelings he gets defensive.. that’s when I realized this man only apologized to shut me up. I told him i wanna break up and said goodbye he probably thinks this time is just like the past i would be back but no. That was my last goodbye to him. If he really loves me he won’t do things that hurt me even after I communicate. In the end, i choose to walk away and choose myself😊
Last updated on:2026-06-14T07:29:11+05:30
Comments (5)
i stayed with someone who always had time for everyone else but somehow never had time to really hear me.
what finally helped me was paying attention to patterns instead of apologies. if i kept explaining the same hurt and nothing changed, i had my answer even if i didn't want it.
when you stopped talking as much and got quieter, did he ever notice on his own and ask what was wrong, or were you always the one bringing it up first?
my ex and me were ldr and I realised that I was not his priority and I wanted everything with him
it’s better to be alone than beg for respect from someone who has no capacity or care