My ex and I are colleagues and broke up roughly a month ago. We both are naturally drawn together so we have been messaging on and off. Yesterday we sat in her car and talked for about 40 minutes, laughing about some old memories of ours. I have been speaking with a new woman who is fantastic but I felt like being in contact with my ex is taking up my headspace since the breakup is fresh and I still have some feelings for her. After we had our chat and laughs in the car, she leaned in for a firm long hug, and deep down I felt my heart hurting. I knew that was our last hug, and it was a great way to end the chapter. Being in contact was taking a toll on both of us, so I sent her a message a few hours after our meetup telling her I will be moving on and wishing her the best for her future. She replied with a cold "Good Luck". I know this is painful for both of us, but lingering in eachothers lives would have made the pain last forever. I will still see her at work and Im not sure how I will feel, but its not fair for the amazing new woman ive met to still be in contact with my ex. I want to give my full undivided attention to her. Part of me wonders if I ended things with my ex too abruptly because a few nights ago she mentioned I have changed and was considering dating me again, but another part of me knows I have to close this chapter full before beginning a new one. I still find myself thinking about my ex all the time, but I know this will be for the best.
Last updated on:2026-06-14T07:34:23+05:30
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i felt that last hug in my chest. i had one of those with an ex too, where we were laughing one minute and then i got home and cried because i knew it was really over.
Its hard because my ex and I broke up again last year, and what got us back together was a long firm hug that made us start talking again. This time the long hug felt different inside of me. I knew it was the last one.
i get why you're questioning yourself, but for me the healing only started when i stopped leaving little doors open.
The problem this time was the door was open quite substantially. We both had a mutual feeling that getting back together is a possibility , I just had to walk away because I sensed some mutual hesitation because of the pain we have put each other through. Its also not fair to the new woman im speaking with to be pre occupied and giving my ex attention. I constsantly question if I pulled the pin too early, but deep down part of me understands this is for the best.
did she actually talk about what would be different this time or was it more of a feeling she shared in the moment?
We spoke about how we are such different people from when we first started dating. She also mentioned we have seen eachothers ups and downs and know so much about each other. Its really hard closing this chapter knowing that there was a good chance we could get back together.