9 1/2 years of marriage & he cheated. left me on my 40th birthday and came back crying & trying to manipulate on my daughters 16th birthday. I need to learn how to break free from his control. he moved straight in with the other woman the day he walked out on me
Last updated on:2026-06-14T14:18:41+05:30
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when he came back crying on your daughter's birthday, was he actually taking responsibility for what he did or was it mostly about what he wanted from you?
it was to get in my head and stay in control of the situation. Evan though I know hes controlling, I just cant break away from it all. constantly feeling like I need him and feeling guilty for a whole situation I had no control over
i'm glad i finally stopped trying to understand my ex's choices and started paying attention to how his actions made me feel. that's when i could see the manipulation for what it was, even though it took me a long time.
my ex left for someone else after years together too, and the way they can flip their whole life over overnight makes you question everything. the birthday and your daughter's birthday part really HURT.
I am sorry he made such a horrible choice. one day he will.regret it but that doesnt help. i wss cheated on for 23 yrs. Everyone knew but me. i grabbed my purse amd left and never wsnted thay piece of crap back. i still have no closure and it took me 8 yrs ro finally find myself again. You will make it thru this nightmare, one second at a time
this is genuinely so terrifying and horrible, I am so sorry this happened to you. I'm only a teen so take what I say however you'd like, but you cannot go back to him the next time (if there is one) he comes around. Abusers typically will begin in the honeymoon phase to deceive you and proceed further into their selfish desires. You cannot give him the attention he wants. I am not sure if age makes a difference, but I recommend keeping yourself occupied and doing whats best for you and your daughter. Finding support groups and talking to friends will help you become stronger and the next time he comes around, you will be strong enough because you know your worth. I really hope this message was helpful, and I wish the best for you and your daughter âšī¸đ