I recently ended my relationship with my boyfriend. We were together for three years and even though I was the one who ended it I feel completely heartbroken.
I truly believed he would be my person. He was my best friend the closest person I’ve ever had in my life and the only person I’ve ever loved this deeply. The breakup happened because there were things in the relationship that I couldn’t ignore anymore. He was ready to propose but deep down I didn’t feel the level of trust and reliability I needed in a life partner.
Even knowing that the pain has been overwhelming. I miss him constantly. I cry myself to sleep most nights and nothing seems to fill the emptiness or quiet the longing. We fought through so much to be together made sacrifices and overcame countless obstacles. Sometimes it feels devastating to think that all of that still wasn’t enough.
I don’t regret loving him. If anything I feel grateful that I got to experience a connection that deep. But it’s been weeks since the breakup and I still love him so much that it feels like it’s consuming me from the inside. Right now everything else feels dull and unimportant compared to what I’ve lost.
I hate knowing that I hurt him. I hate losing someone who meant so much to me.
For anyone who has gone through something similar how did you move forward when you still loved the person with your whole heart? How did you cope with letting go of someone you never wanted to stop loving?
Last updated on:2026-06-13T08:23:05+05:30
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perhaps someone new will come and sweep you off your feet. you never know. there are some genuine nice people out there.
I too had a 3yr relationship but she broke it off with me suddenly. I never really got told why but found out later it was because she fell in love with someone else according to her.
its hard at first you need to cope and let some of the emotions out. then you need to find the motivation to pull yourself out of bed and get moving. find some new friends, or maybe you both can still be friends?..
I found going to the gym and focusing on my old hobbies is helping but dont get me wrong..My heart still aches for them and I'll probably never get rid of this feeling. It just felt like a deep connection.
im proud of you for walking away even though the love is still there. Its going to hurt so much, but you know your worth. Fix your crown Queen, sending you loving healing vibes
Mourn the relationship. It takes time.
I know the pain. It sucks. But look at this way. You are sad (and rightfully so bc of three years!) and you are mourning the vision you had of him and the life with him (proposal etc). Its hard go get over something you had hoped so much for.
You have to give yourself the time to grieve the relationship. They are living things just like people and when one has to end even when it is for the best there is still a feeling of loss.
It is very very important right now that you stand by yourself and your own decision because you made it for a reason.
stay strong
You said it so beautifully it broke my heart... it reminded me again of a long past love.
I hope you're no contact and you've blocked any social media. Being reminded of him will make this all much harder. Breakups suck and it takes a bit of time to get through this initial grief stage. Distract yourself, rely on your friends, take it day by day, and sometime soon you will feel lighter. You broke up for a good reason. Don't start doubting that now.