she texted me to say to me a few things about our relationship when we were a couple, she wanted to vent lol and the she asked me to be her friend bc she believes we would work out better as friends, i said no, i have a gf (i made it up) and then she told me that she also has a gf... that she doesn't care about having me as friend bc she has her exes as friends too... i said no again !!!! well she decided to think that i didn't get over her OR i was in a toxic relationship (lol).
I told her to stop texting me, now i feel bad because i think I miss my friend, my best friend, i don't know ???
(we had a long distance relation ship, we lasted two years, six months ago she broke up w me and two months ago she started to dating someone else)
Last updated on:2026-06-15T04:22:11+05:30
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my ex tried to come back as a "friend" a few months after leaving too, and i realized i didn't miss the relationship as much as i missed having my favorite person to talk to every day
i don't think i'd feel bad for saying no. when i still had feelings, friendship would've just kept reopening the wound. i had to choose my peace over access to someone who already chose to leave.
when you picture being friends with her, do you actually miss the friendship itself or do you miss the closeness and connection you had before the breakup
we pretend it’s normal in wlw to stay friends afterwords but sometimes that’s not achievable. you need to heal and then consider if you’d even want that. protect yourself for now.
I think you did the right thing by saying no, and standing firm on that boundary even though she tried to het you to compromise on it by making you say no multiple times. That alone seems like a hint that keeping the connection would test your boundaries further and impede your healing and progress. It sounds like you're doing really well and being strong. Good job!