I’m going through a difficult moment in my relationship. We have been together for about a year and a half in a long-distance relationship, and we usually talk every day. Recently we had another argument. He told me that we sometimes fight over small things and that he doesn’t like when I get mad because it often turns into arguments. He said that sometimes he agrees with me just to avoid making me upset and starting another fight.
After the last conflict, he told me that he is tired of social media and wants to put his phone away for a few days to rest his mind. He didn’t say he wants to break up, but the sudden distance has been very hard for me because we are used to talking every day. Since then I have been feeling anxious, sad, and overthinking a lot.
I keep asking myself many questions: Did he really mean just a few days, or was that a way to pull away from me without hurting me? Is he actually tired of me but didn’t want to say it directly? If he can stay away from me for days, does that mean he might realize he feels better without me? What if he doesn’t reach out again, or what if this silence lasts for a very long time?
At the same time, I know that I miss him a lot and I think about him constantly. I replay good memories we shared, and it makes me realize how much our daily conversations meant to me. I also wonder if what I’m feeling is love or attachment because the absence feels very painful.
I realize that sometimes I start arguments or react strongly when I’m upset, and I’m reflecting on how that may have made things exhausting for him over time. I truly care about him and I don’t want to lose the relationship. Right now I’m trying to respect the space he asked for and avoid contacting him, even though it’s emotionally very difficult.
Last updated on:2026-03-20T02:15:23+05:30
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I’m going through the same thing. but I am tired of making so much effort just to be heard; or to be met with “you’re overthinking”, “you’re overreacting”, or “I dont want to argue now”. We have been in long distance for two years but now I am under a lot of stress and I’m finding myself unable to handle not being treated with understanding and patience. I broke up with him yesterday and now I feel so lonely and empty. I can imagine how you feel.
I really feel you. It’s so draining when you keep trying to explain your feelings and end up feeling dismissed instead of understood. After a while it just builds up and becomes too much to carry.I’m sorry you had to make that decision, I know it’s not easy even when you know something isn’t working. The loneliness after is the hardest part. I’m going through something similar emotionally, so I truly get it. I hope we both find the peace and clarity we need 🤍
you guys argue, do you feel heard at all or do you usually feel like you have to push harder just to be understood?
When we argue, I don’t always feel fully heard right away. Sometimes I feel like I need to push harder or become more emotional just to express what I’m feeling. I think I do this because I want to feel understood and reassured.
At the same time, I realize that the way I express my feelings can become overwhelming, and it might make him shut down or try to avoid conflict instead of really engaging. This creates a cycle where I feel unheard, and he feels pressured.
I’m starting to understand that the issue is not lack of love, but how we communicate and handle emotions during conflict.
i was in long distance too and when he suddenly pulled back like that it made me spiral, i kept thinking he was quietly leaving me. the silence feels LOUD when you’re used to talking every day.
the first day are the hardest but remember that time heals ALL