Today he went to his terapist.. in the beginning, he wanted to go to try solving the things that weren't good beetween us.. then he left but told me before leave he would go anyway to talk about the same things. I can't stop thinking about write him about it, know if he changed idea, just waiting for me to come back. Any tip about how to resist this strong impulse?
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you feel like you want to text him because you miss him, or because you’re hoping he changed his mind after therapy
i was giving myself a rule like “not today.” just for today i won’t text, and when the urge hits i distract HARD, even something dumb like cleaning or going outside for a walk.
i used to sit there staring at my phone after my ex’s therapy sessions, wondering if something clicked for him and if he’d come back. it messes with your head so bad
the question is : do you want to get back with him ? I think that either ways, you should text him. If you talk with him and find out he wants to restart with you, then do, but always keep in mind the reasons you two aren't together anymore so you avoid doing the same mistakes. And if he doesn't actually want to get back with you, then you will know that you did everything for your relationship, and that there is nothing else that you could do for you, that will make you move on without thinking that you didn't do everything that you could.
If you simply don't want to text him and want to resist the urge of doing so, then you need to calm down, remind yourself that you two aren't together for a good reason, and that choice you two made to go separate ways needs to be respected for your own sake
i'm not sure if i have an answer to it in that moment. We stayed in a relationship for eight months, before break up. Then he choosed to close our story, then in three months i was okay.. After this time he came back, telling me he was sorry for everything and if i was of the same idea, to restart together. At the beginning everything was fine, then he changed and a couple days ago, he left me again, telling me i wasn't the person for him and that maybe he even want a relationship.
This time i didn't expected it and i quite miss him, cause i thought things could work, at the same time.. after two breakups, can we really go back together or what happened just means we are not meant to be and i have to accept it?
@Strange don't want*
@Strange I think that coming back and then leaving again is a bit messed up. There is a high chance you two aren't really made for eachother. If things can work with him, I don't think that's the right time, you need to live your own life and forget about him. And maybe someday you'll meet again and this time he will be ready for a relationship.