My ex left me a week ago, we were together for 7 months. Her principal reasons were that we argued a lot for the past month, and we never listened to each other while doing so. The thing is, a week before she left me we already settled down and she threatened me of leaving if we don't change. After that, I tried my best to revive our relationship, but I never saw "true" efforts, only basic ones, so she left a week later anyways. We both agreed our arguments were immature and we didn't even remember the context of them, but despite that she sees no future in us, affirming that if it failed once it will fail again. I disagreed, we both learned lessons, why would it be impossible for us to apply them and be better next time ? But she said that despite the fact that she loves me and misses me (she stalked my socials after the breakup and reposted things saying she regrets), she still thinks this is the right decision. To be fair, she has no real motives since even she thinks the arguments are nothing. She seemed lost and needed to find herself back, so did I. But I can't understand why doesn't she have the maturity to fight for us and why she gave up at the first issue when we had a future planned.
Last updated on:2026-04-09T22:37:12+05:30
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she actually wanted to try again, or was she already halfway gone even before the breakup?
to be fair, I saw her slowly fade away. In the last weeks of our relationship, I hardly had her saying "I love you" and she didn't even compliment me. I felt useless, and It's even worse now that she left, meaning I wasn't even worth fighting for. It's hard to move on knowing the person that you loved the most and shared so many incredible moments seemed to totally forget about all the good times, just because of small misunderstandings.
we both KNEW the fights were dumb but somehow they still broke us. it messes with your head when they say they love you and still walk away like that
I don't even think we can call it love, the most important thing about it is that you try your best for your partner, she didn't even try at all 🙁
thats true when you truly love someone you will fight for what you had with that person not leave
Simply, a lack of maturity. Let her go. You continue ro live your life, focusing on yourself right now. This is her issue, not yours. Look at it this way: you baked a cake. You pulled it out if the oven and saw it wasn't done. You put it back into to bake more. It's as simple as that. And apply that old adage that if she was yours, she will return. If she doesn't, she never was. That is what I'm doing with my guy. Don't fight to get raw cake batter. Let the cake bake, and while it dies, you go on and live your life to its fullest.
that's actually a great metaphor. It just sucks to think that the cake was never mine, even more after considering all the efforts I put into baking it. I already tried my best for us anyways, begged for her to fix things when she left, messaged her after 3 days of no contact to propose her to restart something after a while, she seems closed. I won't make a fool of myself anymore. Thank you so much
@Nate Good for you! Yes, drop reaching out. It's her problem, NOT yours. You go live your great life and find a healthy, mature soul to partner with. Life is way too short to waste it mending others.
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know youre not alone friend ❤️
thank you my friend 🫶
I'm in the same situation honestly don't worry she wasn't the right person for you because I also believe in fighting for someone I love and rebuilding it no matter what yss it hurts but eventually you'll be with someone better I have been fighting for my ex everytime we argued cause he made it look like I brought up and issue to argue and yet most of the time I was just reacting to things he did and said
maybe she'll be mature enough to realize that and try to come back with that mentality, otherwise we'll go our separate ways for the rest of our days