random thing but maybe it can help you, so when we first broke up and i was not getting over the breakup, i was soo hurt, it felt sooooo hard for me to get through, i wanted to tell you guys that this is natural. just let it be , let your emotions come out and just keep trying and trying and give yourself time till you heal. don't blame yourself
so when things would get hard , i would imagine ( and i'm always doing it) : a house , me in the inside and him in the outside , and i would imagine a huge wall between us like huge and thick , you can imagine a massive locked door that Can never be opened. so inside i just let my emotions explode but i just never open the door to reach to him , always inside safe. yea so ever if you guys sometimes open the window to look or somthing but never open the door for what hurt you someday cause it will just hurt you again and you'll be down. So yeaa its not a big deal if you guys open the window sometimes to see or to ease your pain or whatever, BUT be careful not to open the door , if you left.. there was a reason . and will come a day, you will close the window that hurts you, no matter how beautiful the view or the memories are. You will live with it, but it will only remain a small part of who you are. you will love again , you will meat that person , YOUR person, you'll have butterfliesssss , you'll be fucking happy, you'll feel beautiful, just trust me and don't open this door. i swear time heals everything, there Will Come a Time where you'll come out this home and pass by that person who hurt you but she or he will be so insignifiant for you. yes that's sad ( and you may not want to forget that person ) but you need to choose yourself over anything. and keep in mind that " something that is just eating you from the inside , drains your energy and drags you down " is just NOT MEANT for youu, it will be sooo much eaaaasier with the right one. pls don't lose your energy , give yourself this fkng time to heal. and live each step. know your worth. don't look back cause you're just prolonging your pain over a relationship that will NEVER work. don't betray yourself. you deserve better.
peace🫶🏻
ps: its so hard for me too, i just started the NC
Last updated on:2026-04-15T02:31:18+05:30
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when you say you just started NC, what’s been the hardest moment so far, is it the urge to text or seeing reminders of them?
honestly the only thing that worked for me was being strict with no contact, like treating it as non negotiable even on the worst days. the feelings still came but at least i wasn’t reopening the wound every time.
i tried something like this too… picturing a barrier between me and him because i had ZERO self control back then. i kept breaking no contact until i finally accepted that every time i “opened the door” i reset my healing. that part you said really hit.
its so hard.. i just talk but for me too its seems impossible