met a really great woman. everything clicked the conversations the chemistry the vibe. the first night we met we hit it off instantly even ended up making out a bit. we both said we wanted to take things slow but by the second date we were already sleeping together which isn’t usually like me since i’m more traditional.
looking back i probably should’ve noticed something when she kept canceling plans.
i didn’t think she was seeing other people though. i kind of knew her routine not in a weird way just because we talked all the time. every call was easy we’d laugh a lot and i really liked hearing her laugh.
then she tells me she talked to her sisters and said i’m a great guy just not her guy. after that she told me she had been in a four-year relationship and that i reminded her too much of her ex. all i could think was… but i’m not him.
maybe i got too invested too fast i don’t know. but i don’t get why people compare someone new to someone from their past. i’ve never done that with my ex-wife or anyone else i’ve been with.
the weird part is this isn’t even the first time this has happened. last time someone said i reminded them of their dad and they hated their dad.
honestly i would’ve preferred just being friendzoned.
i just don’t understand why people make those comparisons and judge someone based on a completely different person.
Last updated on:2026-04-17T00:28:04+05:30
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i stopped trying to prove i’m different after that. if someone is still seeing their past in me, they’re not ready for me, that’s what i had to accept
she was actually into you, or was she still stuck in that old relationship the whole time?
yeah this one stings. i had someone tell me i felt “too familiar” because i reminded them of their ex, like i was getting punished for someone else’s mess 💔
At least they were honest with you. They could have been dishonest and drug it out almost 4 years like my ex did. He could have been honest at anytime but he wasn't. SO count your blessings my friend. It could have been much worse.