Why did he choose her over me?

We started off as strangers in dating app in 2024. With different identities. We started of as sexting on day 1. This was new to both of us. We just went with the flow. And as we shared few things about ourselves that day.. we instantly connected. And he said I love you. I know it was too soon. But at that time, we were just there emotionally. No attachments. FYI we don't know real names, nothing. But we found out we diff religion. As time goes by we were still there texting everyday. This is my first time knowing someone in dating app. Who stayed. People usually leave within days.

This went on for months. Then we exchanged photos. Numbers. We were couples. We met 6 months later. We were so in love. He was my first real boyfriend and love.

He was always there reassuring. The only think i lacked in this relationship is we didn't meet often. That made me question. But he always say reasons like. He is financially not stable, he has other plans, he is not well. All of it was true.

But we will only meet once a month. If I'm lucky 2 to 3 times. That too If I asked most of the time. He do ask to meet as well but I feel not enough and its very seldom

I totally understand his financial standing. I earned more than him. And I'm the girl who was raised independent. So when we go on dates I initiate to pay. I don't know whether this hurt his ego I guess. He is a provider mindset guy. But I know he don' thave much left. So when I suggest the restaurant I would offer to pay. But I do still let him pay. And one more thing why I pay is because I'm the one calling him out. So I don't want him to feel if I go out with her I need to pay. So I don't want to see her. For me none of that matters. Only matters is to see him.

Then there times he isn't well. I asked to go clinic he wouldn't. probably he feels I'm nagging or forcing. All I did is care. Oh god.

I made mistake..i shouldn't have pushed him away..

So when my needs were not met. I get moody and mad. I reply cold. And he thinks I'm not interested to talk. But he never chase me or convince me.. as guys in nature does that.

Then he gets upset bcs I'm upset. Then I will just brush it off and be normal. But I told him if we not meeting often. Then I'm not the girl for you. You should feel comfortable being with someone.

Then he was sorry, he miss me and all. So okay were normal
.. months passed by again I saw similar pattern in November 2025.

When I'm cold bcs of his behaviour.. he gets upset. Or probably he thinks I'm abandoning him. He also feel i dismissed his feeling.

Then I told him off .. end of December we breaking it off. Bcs for the first time in my 1 Yr 10 months relationship. for straight 5 days. He didn't call me. He will text me. I reply 6pm. He would go missing and only reply 11pm or next day once I'm asleep.

I asked him why. He said he waS just too tired. How can you not talk to your girlfriend for few days.

I told him I'm done. You wanna end it nicely or traumatise each othrr. He said nicely.

So then we met on Dec 26. Went eat. Hugged each , wished well, kiss and said I love you. Cried. And ended it.

After that we still text and all. But slowly his replies were late..like super super late. I sent him something I want to tell. He asked what. But went missing for a day.

He went through something bad as well. Like his car had problem.
I totally understand. But then he ask me what happened. He called. I couldn't answer as my parents were with me. Little did I know that was the last call.

But I replied to his text... After that he replied late. Then I stopped replying totally. Bcs I felt .
1. I'm burdening him with my stories.
2. If he was really concerned he would have reached out again.
3. I felt I was the one holding in together 4. I can't even be nad bcs he isn't my boyfriend. He is not obligated to reply but I was still upset.

So I didnt reply. But he didn't reach out again either. I thought he still loved me.


Since our religions are diff, we know we wouldn't make it far. I always remind him that so he don't have false hope. but I thought we could meet in the middle.

Then after a month or so, I saw his post, where he wrote about he was hurting abt his past relationship. long story short,
he liked this girl but it didn't work out due to a friend spread rumours abt him. He also said he moved on find something real and peaceful, but when the night comes the pain lingers.

my heart shattered bcs the post wasn't abt me. it was abt a different girl. (the part he found real and peace was me)

i guess its The girl before me. What's more hurting is that, he included the date he was feeling that thing. He was my boyfriend at that time. I felt so hurt that he didn't tell me and I also sad that he had to go through that alone. I thought we were at the place where we shared everything. I wish he could have told me.

then 3 days ago, he posted a picture going on a date with the girl. if I assume correctly..she is the same girl he posted. I thk he got the girl.

I'm so shattered, how could he just leave me like im nothing. I gave my all. heart and soul. how could he? 3 months is a short time for the bond we shared. he left like I meant nothing. he deleted our secret chat in telegram.

I know it started of something fun and casual without attachment. but as time goes by it was real love. he is my first real boyfriend.

even though I saw we had no future, i thought one day when it ends i can move on knowing he really loved me and i was the only one.

throughout the relationship he was a very very sweet and attentive boy.


Now he just threw me away?

Last updated on:2026-04-21T19:41:54+05:30