I notice that I try to keep myself busy all the time. Everytime I stop and don’t have a full schedule I feel exhausted, heavy and anxious and I know I just have to let all of the feelings surface. I want to deal with them now, not push them back.
Last updated on:2026-05-05T23:36:58+05:30
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when you do stop and it all comes up, is there something specific that hits first or is it just that overall weight
i think its the overall weight and emotions
keeping myself busy just so i didn’t have to sit with it. the second everything got quiet it all hit at once and felt so HEAVY. it’s scary but also kind of honest.
i feel exactly like this. Especially at night when everything seems quiet. It’s rough right now but i just sit in them & cry it out sometimes
it helps to know that you are not alone w ur feelings, sending courage
it used to happen with me too in the initial days, but i gathered courage and sat alone in my room with nothing but my own emotions and i cried a lot, i sat on the floor with resting my head on the bed, i cried as much as i could....and i cried and let it out by writing it...for 15 days i did this...and after that i began to feel lighter and now since it's been 2 months since my breakup and i have finally processed 90% of the things...i am geniunely doing good now...i am happier without him
I hope that in the future i feel that way too! Best ways for me has been writing my thoughts and running and walking when my head feels too heavy
I know it feels like you need to get rid of all everything right now, and it's obvious when you're trying to heal, and going through grief doing nothing can make you anxious and exhausted, heavy and there's nothing wrong in that, so don't beat yourself that you can't deal it with right now.
How it helped me is to just let it be there, and if it wants to come to the surface it will, if it doesn't, don't push why? because you're trying to dig out can actually be painful, because you can remember some things that deep down you don't want to and it can hurt even more than it already does. so my advice will be to take time and time heals all wounds, don't push them back yes i know, but don't dig either.
That is well said that don’t dig the feelings out, haven’t thought about it that way. I just have to remember to take a day at a time and not to rush things. I feel that it is getting better everyday even when it hurts like hell at times