She left me after a three months relationship because she said she couldn't handle a relationship in this hard period of her life and maybe in the future yes. She left like 20 days ago and still stayed in contact, leaving the door slitghly open, she even cried because I ignored her one time. Yesterday we had sex and the same day I came to know that she is texting with someone else for less than a week and this saturday she's going to the club just to see him. This is part of the reason she left me, including the fact that the hooneymoon fase ended. She said she's sorry and she's starting to go to the psycologist and when she'll get better she'll contact me and say sorry for real. How do I get her to come back or move on in general, counting the fact that we were the firsts time for each others. Any tips?
Last updated on:2026-05-06T22:43:43+05:30
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do you actually want her back as she is right now, or the version of her that chose you fully?
I actually want the old version of her, the one I fell for and the one she was at the start of the relationship. Everyone says I have to move on and eventually she'll come back and wanting me back, as friends or something more but idk. I actually don't like this version of her
honestly, the thing that helped me was stepping back completely. no contact, no checking, even when it hurt.
i’ve been in that spot where they keep the door half open while already talking to someone else.. i kept thinking “maybe they’ll come back” while they were already moving on.
I think she is a narcissist, go no contact don’t answer at all for 30 days and let her go.
Update: The guy she's talking to seems to have a girlfriend and to be a bad person
@ChibiDot794 you shouldn’t care
let her go. it sounds like she has a lot of baggage. sex isn't love. she sounds a little like she's keeping you for a back up.
Update: The guy she\'s talking to seems to have a girlfriend and to be a bad person