when I used to see others going through bad breaksups and struggling, I used to see them as weak people. I used to think to myself how hard is it to accept a relationship is over, and move on.
That all changed a few days ago, 1 day before my birthday.
My co worker who I have been dating on and off for over 2 years told me she is in love with somebody else.
The worst part? She loved me over the 2 years and I couldn't take her seriously or return her love. I always told myself it was going to end soon.
But we kept going back to each other. Because we saw eachother daily at work, we always found a way to make up and fix things.
When I finally realised I loved her and wanted to start something serious with her, she was done with getting her heart broken and had moved onto another man who could give her some of the love she was wanting from me for years.
I am now at work and its the toughest thing I have ever experienced. Part of my heart expects to see her face behind every door I
open, and we can sit down and work out our differences, but I know this time it's too late.
She had to find a safe harbour to shield her from the storm
I had put her through for over 2 years.
All of our co workers associate us with each other. We attended all of the work functions together, and now we have to act like we are strangers ? How is that even possible.
They say pain is a good teacher, I promise to myself that I will never forget this lesson.
Last updated on:2026-07-07T13:09:18+05:30
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Fellow Melbourne, you are right, pain is a good teacher, but I promise you, it wont last forever. Think about what you have learnt through this experience
Reading this over a month later , its crazy how fast time goes. I still think about her everyday, but im beginning to build up good habits again and think positively.
I cant wait for sunny weather to hit our rainy, grey city ☀️
@Havingablast how are you feeling after a month? Its been 3 months for me, I still think about him everyday, but its not painful anymore.
i used to judge people for “not moving on” until i lost someone i thought would always circle back to me. seeing them at work every day after realizing i loved them was HELL.
so real. I just though this last break would be like the ones before it, we will see eachother at work often enough to work it out. But nope, this was the last break. She is gone. I have to mourn a person I see infront of me everyday. Hardest shit ever.
the timing finally clicked for you when she had already run out of hope.
real talk. seeing her daily at work is live re living the same nightmare. Does no contact get easier ? im so used to speaking with her about every little event in my life.
i used to never understand why people would get so broken at the end of a relationship. i usually would move on pretty quickly but this time is different because i actually saw a future with him...i was a good partner but i don't think he was ready for a mature relationship even though he's 3 years older than me. it felt like i was the one that always had to be the strong one, the voice of reason and the adaptable one...i was able to compartmentalize and focus on what was important but he didn't have this in him.
that reminds me exactly of how I acted to make this girl give up on me. I wanted her close but not too close . I wanted to enjoy her affection and attention without growing attached. By the time I had my realisation and loved her back, she had moved onto another man who could give her the stability and love she craved for.
Hurting someone who you now realise you loved has gotta be the worst pain.
@Havingablast at least you're self aware...it also feels terrible to be on the receiving end... I feel like I gave my partner everything and was always supportive and when things got tough he chose to walk away, it makes me so angry because if I did the same thing I'd be framed as the bad guy...and even now, i wonder how he's framing this whole thing to other people
man… do you think part of this pain is also guilt? like knowing she gave you the love you wanted now, but you couldn’t receive it back then?
the guilt is certainly whats hurting the most. She was my biggest supporter. We have had such good memories over the past 2 years but I could never take her seriously. I thought I would be okay with her moving on and finding someone who can love her back, but that is tearing me apart. The thought of another man being with her makes me sick.
I have been having dreams every night about her where I wake up feeling heartbroken in the middle of the night, because the reality sets in that she is gone forever. I have to mourn that girl I was with for over 2 years, but the torture is I have to see her everyday.
She went through this pain alot earlier than I did because she knew that I would not love her back and her patience ran out.
Love is seriously one of the highest highs but the lowest lows.
hang in there the pain will subside and you'll be able to start healing with time.
I was such a mess on day 1 but im slightly better today. Im not ashamed to admit I cried today for the first time in over a decade. I had so many emotions building up over this weekend that I had to let this shit out.
@Havingablast been there its not embarrassing to admit to someone who understands. hang in there time will help.