If you dont mind please read my other post about my situation. I'm just wondering.. I need closure of some kind. I'm assuming they've broken up with me completely. So.. If thats the case then I'd like to write a letter not for them but for me to get my own closure.
but I'm not sure how long to wait till send or deliver said letter/note.
Last updated on:2026-05-26T19:02:50+05:30
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i did the exact same thing once. i wrote this huge goodbye letter thinking it would finally make them understand me, but honestly the part that healed me most was finally saying the things i’d been carrying around in my own chest. sometimes the letter is more for the version of you still waiting 💔
I mean realistically I don't know if its over..She never told me it was over.
i’d wait until the urge feels less panicked and more calm. when i wrote mine too early it was still full of hope for a reaction, and that hurt me worse after. once i could reread it without expecting anything back, i knew i was writing it for ME.
you are probably right.
to be honest i thought of doing this too. i didn't end up doing it because i knew he would just ghost me as per usual. even if i framed it like me getting things off my chest, i knew nothing i wrote out would reach him...the textbook definition of hearing not listening.
bro imma tell you like this. in a month your brain will purge itself of all the happy chemicals you were having with the feelings. it will mellow out. (it happened to me now) but it still hurts but I will tell you that pain and sadness is still there. I still feel myself thinking of her and having some pain in my chest but I no longer feel sad. but I know I still love her but I dont know if I can accept her back. but I know people on here are harsh and I am willing to listen to you vent bro if you need it. but bro something I can say is get a journal and write it out even write out your feelings write what you love about them and then take them off their pedestal you put them on and write about what's wrong with them. write why it could never work. most of the time we grieve what we thought of for the future we as humans tend to find patterns and dream a lot and it tends to hurt us. you are doing good my friend idk what happened but im proud of you
thanks for that.
@ItsNotEasy yes sir anytime my dear friend what i can say is when you better yourself they might notice and want to come back if that is the case then you have to start it as if they were a different person different memories different future between you both because the old one will wither away like a plant. but if they dont come back thats fine too you would be preparing yourself for whatever chapter is next in your autobiography. sometimes you find the right one right away and others you find after you been through some troubles because you will have to steel yourself and harden not only your heart but your boundaries and your resolve to being the man you feel confident in being. but please do know my brother you have a friend who feels confident in you and knows that you will be able to become the person you deserve to be and to become the person the potential partner you seek needs
do you want to send the letter because you truly need closure, or because a small part of you still hopes they’ll respond and change everything?
no i dont need a response.
I don't think I can move on at all without this..like I can't even heal slightly it just hurts every day.