we were together for 8years we have a 4year old daughter he broke up with me I was an alcoholic that’s 16months back , he took the child to his mother u sobered up been trying to apologize since living with hope and pain at the same time thinking he will take me back one day but I’ve realized all the waiting leads to resentments abd self sabotage am choosing to let go however hard it is so as to focus on personal growth abd see how best I can show up for my daughter without attaching it to her father , I’ve decided to try go no contact for 30days not even showing up at his mothers to see my little girl this is Gona hurt but I pray to stay here and see how this goes because it’s what I need I need to stop leaving in my delusional life and come to reality to work on myself abd build independence
Last updated on:2026-05-07T03:34:22+05:30
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i was in that place where you’re holding onto hope and it slowly eats you alive. i got sober too and thought fixing myself would bring them back, but it didn’t, and that broke me again.
well am choosing myself now
how did u handle it ?
i respect this a lot, seriously. when i finally stopped chasing and sat in the quiet, it hurt like hell but it gave me some control back. i’d just be careful about cutting off seeing your daughter completely, that part matters too.
do you have a way to stay connected to your daughter while still keeping distance from him, or does it feel all or nothing right now?
my daughter stays with his mother , and I’ve always gone there to see her but it drains me because I have to pretend a t around as though am happy with everything and try to fit in and I always try to reach out to him to show him am responsible or i show up for our daughter but it drains me too so am not saying am completely cutting off my daughter too I just want to give space to myself to learn how to love her withoughy attaching her to her father