my boyfriend broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago and i still can’t wrap my head around it. it came completely out of nowhere. the night before i was at his house and everything felt normal honestly even better than normal because he was being extra affectionate. we texted all day like usual then later that night he suddenly sent me a message saying he couldn’t give me what i deserved and needed to focus on becoming the person he wants to be.
there were no huge problems no fights nothing unresolved between us. we hadn’t even argued in a while. everything genuinely felt good. since the breakup i’ve texted him twice both a few days after it happened and he never responded. i haven’t reached out in over a week now.
people keep telling me it sounds like an avoidant discard and that he might come back once i stop contacting him but i honestly never saw major avoidant behavior from him besides sometimes needing space during arguments. i just miss him so much and i can’t stop hoping he’ll come back. has anyone gone through something similar or have any advice?
Last updated on:2026-05-15T14:51:11+05:30
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do you feel like he was fully honest with you during the relationship?
Hi first of all..just because you didn't see anything doesn't mean it was out of the blue on his end. Secondly Never ever chase a man. It's humiliating. Men are a dime a dozen..move on.
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