married 27 years now, been separated for 7 of those years and I allowed him back into my life and my bed about 4 years ago. He cheated and abandoned our children and I. I was in inpatient treatment when he moved his meth monster into our home pushing our children out of their home, she still to this day is in his life. He has caused me so much heart ache and pain, he through our family away like it was trash so why in the hell did I let him back in? our 21 year old daughter still lives with me so he just comes and goes as he pleases, making it impossible for me to move on. I feel like I am less then I really am. I was going doing well those first few years. I am 48 years old and I have had his last name longer then my own, he's all that I know and I feel so stuck
Last updated on:2026-05-16T12:24:50+05:30
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i think the part where he comes and goes whenever he wants is keeping the wound open. i had to finally stop giving my ex casual access to me because every visit reset my healing back to zero. i really hope you’ve got someone in your corner outside of him, not just us.
It really doesn't help the fact that our daughter still lives with me cause he just uses her as an excuse to come over whenever he feels like it. No I really don't have anyone else to talk to, it feels like nobody understands
did part of you let him back in because you missed HIM, or because you missed the version of your life that existed before everything fell apart
I think I just really miss my old life, everything became so blurry after our split, at the time I still had my Son and Daughter living at home, my other daughter and granddaughter lived very close by and life made sense.
i let my ex come back after he destroyed me too, and i kept asking myself why i opened the door again when i KNOW what he did. but after decades with someone, they become woven into your whole identity. that kind of attachment doesn’t just switch off
I am really glad that someone can relate to what I am going through. right now I feel like my life is basically over, I'll never find happiness ever again. my good years are gone
that sounds so tough, dont be too hard on yourself ❤️