for some context, me and my girlfriend broke up two weeks ago . We been dating for about a year and a half, and honestly the break up felt extremely blindsided. We had been arguing on and off for the past month or so, but it wasn’t anything bad and I figured we were having a great week. Then randomly I got a call in a text telling me that she felt like she needed space and felt like we both needed time to learn and grow and then maybe we could get back together in the future. She kept saying that she’s looking at this like an opportunity for us to grow and not for us to break up and go mess around… if you will. we ended things on really good terms, and I didn’t sit there and argue with her or beg for her back. But since then she’s been on and off, texting me and sliding up on my Instagram stories, and I honestly have been doing the same because it makes me feel just as good when I start conversations with her. I asked her a few times during these conversations if we wanna go back to casually contacting each other but every time she said no, and said that she feels bad for reaching out again, and we should do no contact so about one day ago, I made the decision to fully commit to no contact and decided to let her know that I would be removing her on all social media but leaving text message open if she ever needs to reach out. We both go to the same college so I know after the summer we will definitely see each other. I don’t know what I should do and if I should just take the summer and relax and try to reach out to her later on. or what
Last updated on:2026-05-28T21:32:52+05:30
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i had an ex who kept doing the “maybe in the future” thing while still checking my stories and texting me randomly, and it kept me emotionally stuck for MONTHS. the second i finally committed to real no contact, the fog started lifting a little
do they ever come back bc deep down I do want a future bc we ended things on great terms
removing her while leaving text open was probably the healthiest thing you could’ve done right now. when someone says they want space but still keeps pulling you back in emotionally
she genuinely wants to grow and reconnect later, or does it feel more like neither of you fully wants to let go yet so you’re both keeping one foot in the door?
I honestly don’t know nor do I know how to tell