I know I can't undo what I've done. I would lie to myself if I'd say that I don't miss her. I miss her a lot.
Lately, I just kept having the urge to just text her, and telling her that I miss her, and I've had some scenarios in my head where she just texts me and we start talking again.
It's been 20 days since we broke up.
But I learned to not let my emotions control me, because that's what led to our breakup. I tired her out. I'm writing this to let you guys know, again, do not let overthinking ruin your relationship. It's okay to feel that way because your brain is trying to protect you.
I truly regret everything that I've done, but I respect the fact that she walked away. She could have taken advantage of the fact that I was very vulnerable and anxious, but she didn't, so she will always have my respect.
I'm happy that she has that peace that I was supposed to bring, not the opposite. And if our paths won't reconnect, I'll be happy for her no matter what, I just want the best for her. After all, she's the person that showed me what true love really means. And it exists, you just need to have your boundaries, self-respect, be honest, and don't let emotions control you. Don't do what I did.
At the end of the day, I'm grateful for the lesson that God offered me, even tho I wish it didn't remain a lesson.
Last updated on:2026-05-28T15:04:18+05:30
Comments (7)
i was the anxious overthinker too and by the time i realized how exhausted my ex was, the damage was already DONE. the part where you still want the best for her even after losing her says a lot about your heart honestly.
you can tell you’re not romanticizing your mistakes anymore, you’re actually facing them.
you miss HER specifically right now or do you also miss the version of yourself that felt safe and loved with her
I miss HER. The version of me from before was so blinded by anxiety that I didn't notice I was genuinely exhausting her. Maybe I was feeling safe and loved in some moments, but what about her? That's what matters. I think relationships need balance, not what I offered.
I don't know what to do I feel so lost. she said she just needs time to heal and that we don't need to go no contact with the exception of calling she also said that later down the line when she has a house and has gotten her life straight she'll think about starting over but the days feel like they are years it's just so hard.
I understand what you mean , but it she says that's what she needs , give it to her , space is good ,and it gives both of you time to truly think and reflect, focus on yourself for now,you can do it.
@NitroPulse681 thank you man that's the whole reason I got this app I couldn't handle not messaging her so I get it to help and it is I'm 2 hours strong I only got it then but it's helping and thank you for your advice :)