It's been two months since the breakup and until last night things had been relatively calm. Then something happened involving my ex. She reached out around midnight but didn't actually explain what was going on. I ended up losing sleep over it and couldn't fall back asleep afterward.
Today has been really difficult. I haven't had much of an appetite and my mind keeps racing. This is the first breakup I've gone through with someone I truly cared about. We knew each other for over a year before we started dating so she's woven into a lot of my memories and daily life.
No matter what I do something reminds me of her. We spent so much time together that it feels impossible to escape those reminders.
This was the message she sent when she ended things:
"I want to break up. I want you to know you were a great boyfriend and there's not a thing about you that I would change. But I am dealing with a lot of stuff and need to focus on myself. You deserve someone who is as sentimental and interesting as you. I'm so so sorry but I can't handle a relationship right now. I want to thank you for all that you've done for me and I'm sorry if this hurts you in any way."
What makes this even harder is that I've been trying to understand what happened through one of her friends because my ex won't talk to me directly. Her friend told me that when my name first came up my ex seemed upset. After talking more she apparently realized that whatever happened had nothing to do with me. Even so her friend says she can't tell me what actually happened.
So now I'm stuck with a lot of questions and very few answers. I know I'm not the cause of whatever is going on but being left in the dark is making it hard to move forward. At this point I honestly don't know what to do.
Last updated on:2026-06-24T18:20:12+05:30
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i had an ex pop back up months later with a vague message and it wrecked my whole week. the silence after they stir things up can hurt almost more than the breakup itself.