i just got dumped by my girlfriend after a big argument. it wasn't our first fight either. she has a 4-year-old son and recently spent around $15k on a tummy tuck and breast augmentation. around the same time she told me she had defaulted on her mortgage which honestly worried me.
there were other issues too. after telling me she wouldn't do cocaine again she ended up doing it with friends on a night out. looking back i can see there were some major red flags. at the same time i know i wasn't perfect either.
i slept through my alarm more than once and showed up late to plans we made. after the cocaine incident i called her "white trash which i deeply regret. i also fell asleep while watching her son. during arguments i said things i wish i could take back.
that's what's making this so hard. despite all of it i genuinely loved her. i still think she's a good person and for most of our relationship i felt like she communicated well. now i'm left trying to make sense of everything.
when we broke up she told me "this isn't going to work. don't ever contact me again." she blocked me everywhere. i don't plan on reaching out but part of me still hopes she contacts me someday so i can apologize for the things i said.
i really thought she was the one. honestly a part of me still feels that way.
Last updated on:2026-06-02T19:25:12+05:30
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hmm separating "i loved her" from "we were good together." i had an ex i thought was THE one, but once the shock wore off i could finally see the things i kept excusing because i wanted the relationship to work.
if she reached out tomorrow and you got the chance to apologize, do you think you'd actually feel at peace afterward, or would part of you still be hoping for another chance?
i stayed hung up on someone for months because i couldn't stop replaying my own mistakes, even when there were plenty of issues on both sides. the guilt can get so loud that it drowns out everything else
this sounds so difficult and I’m sorry this has all happened. If she’s blocked you on everything then let that be for now. the best you can do is work on yourself, but I can understand why you can’t reach out to apologise hurts even more. Yes, both of you may have made mistakes in the relationship but if you can see that, then your halfway there to healing. I hope everything works out in the end for you