Why i can’t stop thinking about her after our breakup

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Been 27 days since we broke up.
Learned a lot. The weight of regret and guilt is heavy, she was a wonderful person and I pushed her away.
I learned to respect the limit tho, and I'll handle what comes trough..I'll try. I'll admit , it hurts , a lot, but we're human.
She was my first real love after all.
Don't know what will happen in the future , I'd lie to myself if I'd say that part of me doesn't want her to text me. She broke up with me, she says that it felt forced,and I totally understand her.
That's a limit I'm willing to respect. So, I understood that if I text her, not only would I be violating her boundary, but I would be doing it just to calm my anxiety. After all, I no longer have control over the situation, but we still follow each other. She can write to me if she wants to..even though the chances are almost zero..what can I do.
Today's been a pretty rough day ngl , been reflecting and learning more but, I clicked, checked her profile, and saw that she no longer has me at close friends, it seems normal to me but at the same time it hurts..

Last updated on:2026-06-04T17:49:38+05:30

Comments (7)

togetherno
togetherno 3 wks ago

when you think about her texting you, do you mostly want another chance with her, or do you want reassurance that she still cares about you after all that's happened?

subdual
subdual 3 wks ago

tbh , I want another chance , I want to bring her peace, not problems like I used to bring her before, I want to treat her properly, if I ever have that chance, I will value it

TDHKL
TDHKL 3 wks ago

where you said texting her would be about calming your anxiety hit me. that was a hard lesson for me too. on my rough days, i kept reminding myself that respecting their space was one of the few things still in my control.

subdual
subdual 3 wks ago

yeah true , stay strong man , you got this:)

mysticChu
mysticChu 3 wks ago

27 days is still so fresh, and i remember carrying that same mix of regret and hope after my first real love left. every tiny thing, even something as small as being removed from close friends, felt way bigger than it probably looked from the outside

subdual
subdual 3 wks ago

damn man , how are you doing right now?

VulcanMP24
VulcanMP24 3 wks ago

I want her to text me too. Your best bet, live your life as if she is never coming back. Try to put your phone on dnd a little more often!