Literally in a state of panic for the last 6 hours because I’ve just found out my ex has gone to Thailand randomly with an old friend he hasn’t seen in years, and has gone until potentially the end of the month (who knows). I found out because even though my ex unadded me on Snapchat, I could still see his main stories on snap. he posted something this morning of him and this random man in, what looked like, a foreign country. And I was like…what the hell?. I hadn’t spoken to my ex for three days but seeing that threw me off. I messaged him on Instagram asking where he was and he sent me a photo of the streets of Thailand. I asked when did he make this decision to go. was it after we went no contact or before? and that’s why he unadded me?. All these questions are circling over my head. I finally called him and he told me he decided to go 2 days ago, he saw the opportunity to go and went. I asked why he didn’t want to tell me directly and why I had to find out through a Snapchat story. He said he didn’t think it was necessary. At the end of the call he said he still wants to go no contact with me. I asked if he saw us getting back together and he said he wants to, but he needs work himself out. I feel sick, panicked and upset because I feel like it seems as though he’s moving on. I don’t know the people he is with either so it feels like I can’t really trust their sense of morals etc. What should I do?
Last updated on:2026-06-05T18:25:20+05:30
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Forget about him and move on. Every time you break no contact, you're reopening that wound and it's just going to take that much longer to heal.
my ex split with me over asking him why is our friends are texting him in stead of asking his girlfriend if okay to do but in to this when I said about it he went of out me saying I'm jealous I'm not jealous I just want to why is she texted my ex when she knew we were going to be at the same place I was not allowed to see what him and her text I can't move on this has broken me so bad where I lost his baby and he don't care about me baby I'm just a lier to him and the moment he got grumpy with me that is when I knew him and my two ex friends went and told lie about he has cheated I know he has both girls has his number and one sit there and tell me he make sick 🤢 and she still has him on Facebook and her on Facebook she put her on private so I don't see it what she and write to each other what can I do I'm ready to go hard at three of them
inding out my ex was doing things i knew nothing about after we broke up, and my brain immediately filled in every blank with the worst possible story. the panic wasn't even about the trip, it was realizing i wasn't part of their day-to-day life anymore. that hit HARD
that every new detail i learned about my ex just created ten more questions i couldn't answer. if he's asking for no contact, i'd probably stop checking his stories and socials because that's the stuff that kept reopening the wound for me.
and what about if you don't have him on Facebook or any app on his phone he can still get into mine without me knowing
if you had never seen that snapchat story and never found out about Thailand, would you have felt okay about the no contact that day, or was there already a lot of anxiety building before this happened?
to be honest I was feeling okay that day (okay as I could be) but as soon as I saw that I freaked out and then contacted him again.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I can imagine the tightness in your chest. I'm so sorry 😔
you need to slow down and calm yourself. this is a time for you to focus on yourself and your mental health rather then worry about him and getting your emotions in a downward spiral. theres honestly nothing you can do except make yourself busy and hope he makes good decisions not rash ones. But focusing on yourself is the best thing for the time being.