Why am i feeling so lost in my long-distance relationship?

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i'm a nurse and lately it feels like i'm carrying more than i can handle. work has been incredibly demanding and by the end of most days i'm physically exhausted emotionally drained and still expected to keep showing up strong for everyone around me.
at the same time my relationship is weighing heavily on me. it's long distance and while there's still love there the communication has become inconsistent and unpredictable. i spend so much time waiting for messages questioning where i stand and overthinking every interaction. it's left me feeling anxious unwanted and emotionally stuck.
if i'm honest i've been struggling more than i've let on. between the pressure of work the emotional exhaustion and the uncertainty in my relationship i feel overwhelmed. some days i barely recognize myself anymore. i've even had some very dark thoughts and it's becoming harder to cope with everything that's piling up.
i don't want to make a decision based purely on emotion but i feel trapped. part of me wants to keep holding on and hope things get better. another part wonders if staying is only causing more pain. the hardest part is that i've built so many hopes and future plans around this relationship and the thought of letting go feels like losing something deeply important.

Last updated on:2026-06-05T15:04:11+05:30

Comments (3)

offlifego
offlifego 2 wks ago

if the relationship stayed exactly the way it is right now for the next six months, would you still choose it, or are you holding on mostly because of the future you planned together?

mustardCC
mustardCC 2 wks ago

i was working long shifts when my relationship started falling apart, and i remember feeling like i had nothing left to give. everyone saw me functioning, but inside i was running on fumes

SockPunch
SockPunch 2 wks ago

Going through this right now, working as a NICU NP. I think I just shut down.