Why am i dreaming about my ex after all these years?

I had an incredibly vivid dream about her last night. It's been five years since we last spoke and in all that time I've had no way to contact her or even know how she's doing. I think the complete lack of information has made it harder to move on because my mind keeps filling in the blanks with its own stories.
The relationship left a lot of scars. She hurt me deeply said things that stayed with me for years and often made me feel mistreated. Part of me still wants her to understand the pain she caused to acknowledge it somehow. Another part carries anger that has nowhere to go because there is no contact no closure no conversation.
I'm not really looking for advice. I'm just wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar. It's strange remembering how certain I was that we'd be together forever while also realizing we haven't spoken in years. That contrast still feels hard to make sense of.

Last updated on:2026-06-17T14:50:11+05:30

Comments (3)

matchalova
matchalova 39 mins ago

i went almost four years without speaking to someone i thought i'd spend my life with, and one random dream had me grieving all over again. those unanswered questions can stick around way longer than the relationship itself

Sun833
Sun833 3 hrs ago

five years is a long time to carry hurt without a place to put it.

brokefeather
brokefeather 4 hrs ago

hey when you think about her now, do you miss who she actually was, or do you find yourself missing the future you thought the two of you were going to have together?