I don't know who to ask or where to go... I've been with him for 3 almost 4 years. I love him still so much it actually physically hurts. But we can't be together, I know it's unhealthy he lies like it's a second language. bought a flat behind my back and moved us the day after I found out before I could even process it.
We started talking and came to a conclusion we can't be together although it's not official. But it's like my heart can't accept what my mind already knows.
Last updated on:2026-06-18T03:09:12+05:30
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i was stopping the argument with myself, i quit trying to convince myself not to love him anymore. i let myself love him and still accept that we weren't good together.
buying a flat behind your back and moving you before you could even process it is HUGE. did that moment change how safe you felt with him, or had the lying been building up long before that?
the lying started small, like I'll be working late then coming home earlier than usual. Or saying he got hurt when he didn't. Pretending to be sick to avoid confrontation. Then escalated to him bringing his brothers car home, spending each pay check on it, saying he won't. Eventually came to the flat. I keep blaming myself but I never got mad, nor did I not let him communicate. when I saw the pictures of the flat on his phone and asked him he said his brother was looking for a place, then when I found out that was actually the night he got it.
I'm so hurt, my trust has been shattered, and I don't think love is enough to rekindle it.
i ended a relationship with someone i still loved because i couldn't trust him anymore, and that was its own kind of heartbreak. my head knew the truth months before my heart caught up
I'm sorry to hear that, it feels terrible. Are you at least doing better?
It takes time to detach:/ The 7 steps on letting go in the motivation tap is helpful.