Will his rebound last? am i just a memory now?

so I was with my ex for 4 years and we were engaged for 1. our entire wedding was planned and everything and out of nowhere, he started acting differently. I asked what was wrong and he wouldn’t tell me and eventually I got it out of him that he was depressed. he decided he wanted to be alone. this was 6-7 months ago at this point. i moved out, graduated professional school as a doctor, and moved to a town an hour away from where we lived. last month, he told me he was not completely over me, that he regrets that we broke up but didn’t want to get back into another relationship because he didn’t think he had changed enough to make it last. he realized that why he was depressed was because he needed more alone time, wanted to play video games more, etc but never told me any of these things so when I would want to hang out, he would feel like he had to and ended up resenting me. anyway, last month, he tried to form a situationship with me. I agreed we needed more time apart before getting back together and we started hanging out again. as I leaned more into him, he backed away more and ended up telling me “actually I am over you. maybe we can get back together in another 6 months but right now I wanna date other people, but also want you in my life”. I told him I can’t do a grey zone thing because it would mess with my head. he said he liked the grey zone because it kept me around and if we got back together right now and broke up 2 times, then it would be over forever. I told him if he doesn’t want me then just say that. being told no is a lot better than sitting with uncertainty. I told him I deserved to be someone’s first choice. he continuously told me that I was his first choice but that it just wouldn’t work right now. anyway then he started dating this girl who has a similar job as him. she was also engaged and in a relationship for 8 years. they broke up around last August I think. he went on a date with her around the same time I told him I didn’t want to be in a grey zone and he said they kissed. I asked if he had a crush on her now and he said no. I was like well you had a crush on me after our first date, and he said “that was different, you know that”. then they hung out again later that week and he told me nothing happened, he just helped her with some work stuff but still didn’t have a crush on her. he said he would tell me if it got serious. well I couldn’t stand to be in this situation, so I stopped talking to him and basically told him to leave me alone unless he changes his mind. it’s been 9 days since we last talked. since then, he’s liking all this stuff on Instagram and TikTok about “this is 100% the girl I’m going to marry” or like “f*** my ex cuz I’m on to the next” and I’m starting to think he’s officially in a rebound. I’m so scared that it’s going to last and he won’t come back to me as a changed person. he obviously hasn’t worked on himself at all but seems to be super into her. he also liked one of my old Instagram posts from 6 years ago like 3 days ago which if he’s super into her, why would he do that. but his likes and reposts are just super specific to being in love with someone. they’re so different too, he’s lazy, agnostic, sleeps til 2, eats terribly, doesn’t go to the gym, etc but she cooks, loves Jesus, works out, eats clean, etc. my brain is telling me their incompatible but my heart is stressed out. she’s also like super beautiful so. anyway, long post but feels good to get my feelings out there. I really want to just forget he existed but also don’t want it to really be over.

Last updated on:2026-06-12T10:10:12+05:30