unfortunately he broke no contact to text me about getting my things. we got into a pretty annoying exchange where he thought i was rusning getting my things back and still wants to meet up and talk. he was honestly really mean and obviously texting from a place of being emotional, he said unnecessary things like that he doesn't miss anything, that im childish and he painted me as the villain or the difficult one for wanting to have no contact, that im not validating our relationship by letting it end like this. all the while he is the one who broke up with me out of the blue and he is the one who is now dating the girl he told me not to worry about (allegedly). i feel like im entitled to heal my way and have boundaries. regardless of my feelings i didnt give him the reaction he was trying to get out of me and stayed calm and respectful. but what is the point of this? why the disrespect all of a sudden when im not in the wrong? to me it feels like projection.
Last updated on:2026-06-12T00:32:55+05:30
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when i stopped trying to defend myself to someone who had already decided i was the villain, i got a lot more peace.
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone friend ❤️
i’m just so sad he’s calling me childish and making it out like i’m the one making this difficult or being petty for trying to hold my boundary of no contact. i haven’t said anything mean or petty to him. maybe i haven’t been sending long messages but i’ve been respectful. he hasn’t. i just want to tell him all this but i know i cant. he wants me to be the bad guy anyway. i just dont get what he wants to talk about. it’s over and he has a new girl.
before the breakup, was he someone who struggled to take responsibility when he hurt you
yeah in the moment he couldn’t usually take responsibility, like when i voiced my feelings the first time. but he would always come back the next day and say he thought about it and realized he was in the wrong and take responsibility then
my ex dumped me, started seeing someone else, then acted offended when i pulled away to protect myself. it felt like he wanted the freedom to leave AND the comfort of still having access to me.
exactly!! it’s so selfish