In my second year of college I met a girl who liked me but at first I only saw her as a friend. Over time we became best friends and eventually I developed feelings for her too. When I finally asked her out she told me she had liked me all along.
We spent two wonderful years together in college and then navigated about a year of long-distance when we both started working. Even though meeting became difficult we stayed connected through constant texts and calls. She was a huge part of my daily life.
Later we both applied to a top B-school. I got accepted but she didn't. I eventually decided not to take the admission because I wanted to pursue UPSC and if I'm being honest part of me had imagined that journey with her. While preparing for the exam we started having more disagreements than before but I never thought it meant the relationship was ending.
Right after my exam she told me she didn't love me anymore. She said she had been feeling that way for a while but didn't want to tell me before the exam because she didn't want to affect my performance.
Recently on her second attempt she got into the B-school she had always wanted. Before leaving she asked to meet one last time and I agreed. What I still can't understand is how she seems to have moved on so completely while I'm struggling to make sense of any of it.
I can't sleep properly I can't focus and some days I can barely eat. Just days before the breakup she was still the person I imagined spending my future with. Her explanation was simple: she stopped loving me.
There was no cheating no betrayal no dramatic event. Just someone I loved deciding they no longer felt the same.
And honestly I'm still trying to process how everything changed so suddenly.
Last updated on:2026-06-11T20:32:11+05:30
Comments (6)
U shudnt have left b school for her
How was her life before becoming your gf? Like depressed minimal friends? Past trauma how many relationships she had in past?
No answer is in itself a kind of answer
I have been there …. trust me … your mind seeks answers because it still doesn’t want to believe that the phase has ended !
as much as it hurts, sometimes the person we love stops choosing us. And thats ok. its important that we dont delve into the "why" or "how". It just is. She lost feelings. Its painful, but you need to keep on living each day for yourself. The right person will come along and choose you everyday
you process this by making yourself understand that she never loved you truly. Good luck
You'll never be able to process it. Leave it move on.