I was with a girl for six months and for the first time in a long time I genuinely believed in a future with someone outside of my family and close friends. We talked about long-term plans constantly. Two weeks ago we booked flights to visit each other's families. Just a few weeks ago she told me I can't imagine my life without you.
Then today before heading to a work event she ended things.
Her reason was that I was too insecure and smothering. I'll admit I've struggled with those things before but I've been back in therapy for the past couple of months and had been working hard on myself. During that time she repeatedly told me that both I and the relationship were improving.
What makes this so hard to understand is how normal everything seemed. We were intimate just two days ago. We were making plans. We were talking about the future. There was no sign that she had one foot out the door.
She later admitted she'd been thinking about breaking up with me for around two weeks. That's the part I can't wrap my head around. How do you continue acting like everything is okay being affectionate making future plans being intimate cuddling and telling someone you love them while already planning your exit?
All I ever asked for was honesty. If her feelings changed I wish she had told me. Instead I feel like I was living in a completely different reality than the one she was experiencing.
I don't know if there was someone else if she panicked or if she simply changed her mind. Maybe I'll never know. What I do know is that she made her choice and I blocked her number because I know I can't heal while staying connected.
Right now I just feel shocked. Heartbroken. Confused. A little crazy honestly. I gave this relationship everything I had and I'm struggling to make sense of how someone can tell you they see a future with you one day and walk away the next.
Not really looking for anything specific. Just needed to get this out because I don't think sleep is happening tonight.
Last updated on:2026-06-12T11:46:12+05:30
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damn thats brutal man, the whole "planning to break up for two weeks" while still being intimate and making future plans is just cruel 💀 good on you for blocking her number though, that takes strength when youre hurting that bad 😔