Why i chased him and how i finally stopped

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It all happened when i started to chase him... well, i was super attached to him and he used this to his benefits. He used to make mistakes and get mad at me how i get angry over them, and with that fear of losing him, i used to try to fix, he used to reject me and block me, he even used to hurt me by words, i showed him that i love him and that i can't live without him. After realizing that i am chasing i wanted to break up, and all he said was:"okay, it's as u want, it's not my fault anyways". The bad part of the story is that i kept chasing and begging for him to come back with me, and as always, the same result "REJECTION" i hated myself so much after all that and i decided to protect my dignity and not to text him again. After a week, he texted me, but i was actually unattached. I don't even know how it happened and i lost feelings that fast but it just happened, the fact that he came back made him seem orthless in my eyes and i finally understood how he used to see me when i was begging him not to take breakes from our realtionship. i was back with him, but actually losing feelings more, i stopped chasing, i started to be the toxic one in this relationship, not really toxic but i just thought about taking my revenge from him. he started to fix things after every fight, but i used to forgive him, at some point i became the one who wants to break up every time he does something bad, the one who takes breakes, i just feel much better now, idk if this is fair but i really needed it...

Last updated on:2026-06-24T20:52:48+05:30

Comments (6)

dreamgirl
dreamgirl 2 mths ago

i spent so long chasing someone who kept leaving that when he finally came back, something in me had already switched off. the person i was begging for suddenly didn't seem so special anymore.

NeonJet796
NeonJet796 2 mths ago

exactlyy, that how they already see us when we beg them, we literally seem so worthless in their eyes and they take us for granted, when u stop chasing him and he finally comes back u already start losing feelings for him.

sakasiru
sakasiru 2 mths ago

i didn't actually need revenge, i just needed to stop handing over all the power. once i stopped chasing, i could finally see the relationship for what it was

NeonJet796
NeonJet796 2 mths ago

that's good actually, u made the right decision

Cookie8723
Cookie8723 2 mths ago

you feel better because he's treating you differently now, or because you finally proved to yourself that you can survive without him?

NeonJet796
NeonJet796 2 mths ago

I feel better because i lost feelings for him, i'm with him now just to make him feel the same feelings he made me feel when i was chasing him, this doesn't mean that i don't feel guilty, but he deserved it, cuz he didn't take care of me when i used to give him so much love